Speaker 1: 0:05

This is Trench to Trophies Podcast, where we talk real success, no fluff. If you want to level up, you got to start moving, like you already got it. Let's get it, let's get it. Let's get it, let's get it, let's get it, let's get it, let's get it, let's get it, let's get it, let's get it, let's get it, let's do it. Today we're getting into something that can literally change how life moves for you. We're going to move like you already got it. Yeah, yeah, hell, yeah Most definitely.

Speaker 1: 0:39

Success, peace, love. That's what we're going to talk about today, y'all. When we talk about move like you already got it we're talking about standing on your team. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah, moving confidently. What they used to say back in the day like fake it till you make it type shit.

Speaker 3: 0:56

Yeah but you can't say that now, boy.

Speaker 1: 1:00

It's got a bad connotation now, but we used to know what it meant back then. You know what I'm saying it used to mean go in that interview and do what you need to do to get that job, type shit.

Speaker 3: 1:08

You know what I'm saying? You make a scam answer they got to get it.

Speaker 1: 1:10

That's what I'm saying. It's a different mentality nowadays.

Speaker 2: 1:13

Did y'all know MC Hammer used to hire his own people and go to the club and had them take pictures and shit to the motherfuckers, like who is that dude, who is that damn, hey get that's him so the next time when he came other people was like that's hammer, you know what I'm saying. So, yeah, but I wouldn't necessarily say fake it till you make it, but have that mentality that you are gonna make it. You know what I'm saying it's just about having confidence.

Speaker 3: 1:43

Yeah, if you move like you already got it. You Step in, how you need to Chest out. You know what I'm saying? Head up, walk with confidence and everybody should be able to feel your aura when you walk into a room.

Speaker 1: 1:58

Yeah.

Speaker 3: 1:59

That's how you move, like you already got it in my eyes.

Speaker 1: 2:02

I fuck with that. I fuck with that. So like you got any moments where you feel like you had to walk like that to be able to get an opportunity, you feel like you was always on default.

Speaker 2: 2:12

That's how you always move the room I always been like that you feel like you always just kind of step in this shit, like you got it, like I don't always be like that, like hell, I'm good, but like remember, I used to say I told you my partner used to be like bro, I got more chicks than you because I got this car and blah, blah, blah. I was like bro, I'm getting chicks walking, nigga what you talking about. So it really.

Speaker 3: 2:38

So that's something you feel like you were born with.

Speaker 2: 2:40

Yeah, just confidence, bro, and I always believed in myself. I could understand certain people that they got a bad mental or whatever. They really don't think they can do it.

Speaker 3: 2:56

Don't have any self-confidence.

Speaker 2: 2:58

Yeah, I can't speak for that, you know what I'm saying, but I can understand. I can understand where they're coming from, because having that that confidence, it got me to where I am today. But I can see that a person that was kind of like man this all I can do, you know, I can see them being stagnant, so I understand and so you feel like having self-confidence and having or having no self-confidence and a low self-esteem, but one and the same.

Speaker 1: 3:30

I don't. I think they get that played up as the same. But I also think that that has a lot to do with mindset, right, like y'all was just talking about being stagnant versus people who walk into it like they know they got it. That's got a lot to do with how you, how you was framed early on, like how you think about opportunities and shit. Like I have read some shit on Instagram where people was like black people are in a situation where they always want somebody to lead them to the water and make them drink Right, and it made me and it made a lot of sense to me. But it's also based on how we learn, right. What used to happen to us. We used to get dropped off at school and made other people responsible for us picking up a book, us learning our ABCs, us learning anything outside of normal shit in the household. You learn chores and shit growing up. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1: 4:23

Parents out here pacifying their kids but I'm saying but I think that's what causes like low self-esteem and shit. It's not that they overall just have low confidence. It's that people aren't exposed to being able to make their own decisions and to be able to, like, walk through life and and do you know what I'm saying? Like and build something on their own. Like a lot of people don't get the opportunity until they grown as fuck, and by that time you set into your ways you know what I mean it takes somebody in your life to like reset you, or a moment to reset you.

Speaker 1: 4:52

That's why most people got to go to jail or lose somebody close to them. Well, you know what I'm saying. Some shit like that too but they understand like, oh shit, this is how I'm supposed to be walking through life, like I gotta get up and go get it now. I can't just sit and wait for life to happen to me like that's what. It's always like a click moment you watch any movie, that's kind of. It's always like a dramatic situation the nigga mentor die or something you know what I'm saying?

Speaker 3: 5:14

what was it for you? Then speak for yourself, bro. Like I, gotta.

Speaker 1: 5:16

I had a couple reset moments within my life, like, but as far as the one that kind of set me on the on the right path, bro, I lost everything in uh back in 2018, and I mean like everything. So people close to me, the person I was with at the time, nigga, my dog like I had lost everything. So, like, for me it was, it was like life kind of forced me to reset, you know, I mean, and I from that, from that moment, I had to relearn what motivated me and what would be my next why you know what I mean. And so that took a lot. It was a lot of dark places. It was niggas on the bus, didn't have a car. You know what I'm saying. I had to go through a moment and build after that, do you feel that?

Speaker 3: 5:59

Because it's going back into confidence, then yeah. Because I know at a younger age age, just seeing how you move you had a certain level of confidence about yourself, absolutely, um, that you feel like going through that situation killed it and you had to regain it, or you always had that mystique and you needed to find your way through life I think for me, the important part and I'm glad you asked that question I had to relearn it.

Speaker 1: 6:24

That's the thing. Stuff that I like the confidence that I had didn't work no more, is that. It ain't that I didn't have it, it's that the the way that I was walking, the way that I was moving about life wouldn't. It didn't work for the level that I was supposed to be getting ready for. So because of that, all of my behaviors had to change, my mindset had to change my environment had to change.

Speaker 1: 6:44

Yeah, bro, like. But that's what I'd be, bro. Pain is what make you grow, bro, I don't care who you are, pain is what grow you in any situation, bro. That's why people be running from it. That's why I take you so long to learn all these lessons. You scared of the hard part running from it, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1: 6:59

So it's like for me I could definitely speak today because I feel like I've been through moments where I've had low self-confidence or low self-esteem and I kind of stood a step before I jumped into an opportunity. But it's like I feel like a mindset is necessary, like no matter what other people tell you, they could big you up, they could give you all the flowers that you need, but you got to sit down and understand who you are and how to tap into those skills. You know what I mean mean, because most people have an innate talent, something that they do. They're just kind of good at off rip.

Speaker 2: 7:29

Yeah, you know what I'm saying, but you got to learn how to tap into it in the moments that you need to tap into it that's how you get to that next level you know, I've always felt like I could do anything, bro, like I mean anything bro, like can't nobody, I mean and especially shit on youtube now. So it's another, it's nothing that I can't learn, bro and and go do for myself. So I don't. I've. I've always known it, you know, and part of me feel like I was more advanced than most people, but I was. I was hanging around my big cousins when I was like 12, they was 16, I was getting in clubs and stuff. So for me I was thinking further than most people.

Speaker 1: 8:12

You know what I'm saying you took advantage of that, though I think that's the part you gotta like really highlight, because a lot of people be in a circle, bro, and they be like damn cuz, like I feel like I could do better, but all the people around me is doing x, y and z. So the fact that you even acted on the fact that you was different, it's something else. You know what I mean, because there's a lot of cats in the hood who was different or could have been like-minded like you. They just didn't take that jump.

Speaker 2: 8:36

They ain't take their leap yeah, and I mean, sometimes you need that person too to tell you like you different, you better than that, because my cousins, they always tried to keep me out the street. Every time we used to get into something at the club, he'd be like go to the car, start the car, don't get into nothing. I'm like, bro, I'm getting into a job man, you know what I'm saying?

Speaker 3: 9:01

I'm a child, yeah for real, because't going to lie. We was raised like who you go with, who you leave with. So if I'm going in this spot with you, I'm going to make sure I leave out with you, because you my partner.

Speaker 1: 9:12

That's how I was raised too, we're supposed to be linked up.

Speaker 3: 9:14

All right, so now let me shift to this real quick. We got to talking about confidence. I know what we talking about.

Speaker 1: 9:22

Moving like you got it. We're just confidence. You know what I'm saying. So they go hand in hand.

Speaker 3: 9:25

That's something. Lately I've been kind of, I guess, teaching my son yeah yeah, yeah. About how he carry himself. Like I want to make sure he carry himself a certain way and you know, even when he walk like, y'all know his injury he had. So that's besides that. But just having that confidence when you walk Like don't walk with your head down, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3: 9:45

Walk with your head up Even when he speak. You know what I'm saying. I be acting like even though I don't hear him, because I know I got tinnitus. I know my ears be ringing, but still when I feel like he talking low, I be like hon. What you say Speak up.

Speaker 1: 9:58

Yeah so you can have that confidence with you.

Speaker 3: 10:03

That's a good lesson to teach At the end of the day, keep it a stack, ain't no woman gonna want you Sitting there like hey hey, how you doing, man get out my face.

Speaker 1: 10:13

Bro. But that's Even in business, bro. Think about if you you doing business with somebody and they come to the table All timid. Oh hey, do you think this would be?

Speaker 3: 10:21

Unless you, Michael Jackson RIP.

Speaker 1: 10:23

Yeah, I mean, but even Mike didn't move like that he sounded like you know what.

Speaker 2: 10:27

I'm saying he had an aura behind him. Yeah, bro.

Speaker 3: 10:29

But, he was about that. Mike used to talk that shit. You know what I'm saying. You come back to the room, get her number.

Speaker 1: 10:35

Come back, look at her. Hello, the fishes Get was a wild boy.

Speaker 3: 10:46

Go look back some old movies.

Speaker 1: 10:47

Great representation of of moving like you got it, bro, since he was a young boy bro prince too, bro, all the all the, all the greats. Yeah, like all the greats move, like they got it. I mean even today's day and age, if you look at it, bro, a lot of these, a lot of these cats and you know who we big up, or whatever in the music scene, or even actors or whatever like they move, like they got at least in front of the camera.

Speaker 3: 11:05

You know what I'm saying. There's a lot of capping now going on, but you know that it's a lot of that going on in the industry.

Speaker 1: 11:11

A lot of them cats get coached too, though, so it's like you got that benefit of, you got something to learn.

Speaker 3: 11:17

But then you got the dudes out here that got the money and they always been lame, you remember that to this day.

Speaker 1: 11:22

Every time some of these cats open their mouth, I'm like how you get so much money, bro? You lame as hell, bro, smart, yeah, I mean, and but even then something like nigga, you ain't that. It'd be connections too. It'd be sometimes just who you know or where you, at at the right time, you attach to the right person.

Speaker 3: 11:38

You know what I'm saying but somebody hear that and say you hating that's cool.

Speaker 1: 11:42

I'll be hating that nigga till I'm in that room, like it is what it is, because I know some people work hard to go get it bro, but it's a lot of cats who, who don't they? You know I'm saying they on the back of somebody else and then they try to talk like they got it. At least that's the lesson, shit, they talking like they. You know I'm saying like they about it. But I I say this people feel it.

Speaker 1: 12:04

You know I'm saying like when you got a confidence about yourself, like you said, mike had an aura. You never met him before in your life. You saw him on tv, you know I'm saying, but you could tell by the way he moved, by the way he walked through a room. People could feel it, bro, this nigga. But but for real, bro, cats know when you walk in a room, you could. Bro, when the cat shake your hand we all talk about this you give me a limp handshake, bro. I know you a hoe already like off. You give me like for real, bro, if I can you go to my hand.

Speaker 3: 12:33

Let's break it down.

Speaker 1: 12:34

Let's break it down real quick, like real quick, just so people know every real man knows that how to give a handshake, like you supposed to give a decent grip. Like some of these things be taking it overboard, be trying to break your hand when you give him a handshake. I'd rather that over like some lady fingers. Don't set your hand in my hand like grab it, pause, even even go back a little further.

Speaker 1: 12:56

If I'm sitting down and he enters another man into the room, I'm standing up, you're supposed to stand up and greet that man face to face his hand, even if he's six, five, it don't matter, bro.

Speaker 3: 13:05

Like you, it depends I'm just getting ready to say I know he throws some context in it, go ahead it depends, because what has happened to you?

Speaker 2: 13:16

there's a particular fellow. Hey, there's a particular fellow. You know that I I felt disrespected. Sit down. You know what I'm saying. We were, we were supposed to have a, a man-to-man conversation and he was like you can have a seat. And I mean, all right, now, he could have taken a seat. Now it seems a little petty. I'm older now and I ain't got my chest poked out. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3: 13:54

But at the time.

Speaker 2: 13:54

How old were you at the time? I was probably like 28. Probably like 27, 28. So I was still on my you niggas can't touch this, so so I was pretty much like I don't, I don't want nobody to talk to me. Crazy, I don't want nobody to disrespect me or I don't want them to say nothing, that I feel disrespected and that I felt like that was kind of disrespectful. You can sit down, like what you mean, even though I'm in your house. You know what what I'm saying, but to me at that point it depend on who you are. You know what I mean. Like, if I ain't even going to say, if I have a problem, if I just don't respect you in a certain type of way, I'm not standing up when you come in the room. You know what I'm saying. Like nigga, you should sit down and shake my hand.

Speaker 1: 14:48

Y'all niggas is wild Kiss the ring.

Speaker 2: 14:52

Nah, but it just depends on who it is man.

Speaker 1: 14:54

I think that's the problem with today's day and age, though. Like we've got away from that, Like our generation grew up knowing that those was the rules of engagement and in a regular situation where, even if it's a man you don't know, general respect was you stand up. When you greet, even with a woman walking the road, you stand up and you wait till she get in and sit down, I totally agree.

Speaker 1: 15:12

Sit down, I totally agree it's like this new age niggas who who take it, yeah, like when you offer respect, they, they spit in your hand you know what I'm saying?

Speaker 2: 15:20

no, like, like, like. Oh boy, that's how it be, that's how it feel.

Speaker 1: 15:25

You know, I'm saying.

Speaker 2: 15:26

Remember old boy that was in my crib. He was a young man. We walked in the house and he like stood up and shook our hands. So I respected that. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. Like it was when you do that. I was there. Yeah, you ain't like him just because of who he was with he wasn't standing up, bro, he was.

Speaker 3: 15:48

He was standing on the wall. Yeah, he was standing on the wall.

Speaker 1: 15:51

He said he was standing on the wall, but when he turned, you know what I'm saying he was like hi y'all don't you know what I'm saying like shook our hand, you know I mean like look you already you on him.

Speaker 2: 16:01

He wasn't standing up the type of person the type of person I think we refer to is is one of those people like they. We see them. They throw us the head nod, what's up? You know I'm saying like nah, you know I'm saying stand up, shake my hand so look, will that?

Speaker 3: 16:15

would that be a younger version of yourself though? The kind of guy, the kind of guy that you?

Speaker 2: 16:20

referring to no, because first impression, bro, like when you walk into the room, if I don't know you, of course I'm going to stand up. We here to meet each other, you know what I'm saying. But say, for instance, like at my wife's party right?

Speaker 3: 16:35

Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2: 16:35

So aunt called me over and I walked over and sat down and he introduced me to dude I wasn't finna. Stand back up to shake his nigga hand.

Speaker 3: 16:49

You feel me like I walked over and was like hey, bro, like come here. I was like we talked about. I ain't gonna lie. I ain't gonna lie, I don't know because they, just because ain't seen how I've interacted with people, with other guys. I get up and I'm gonna go over there. You know what I want you to. You know what I'm saying. Feel my energy pause, like like I want. But I want you to feel my energy pause. I want you to understand. Nah, this is what it is. I'm going to look in your eyes, man, and give you the energy. I get what you're saying. I'm not going to go out of my way, but that's how I move. I am going to extend my hand and make sure I get up and go See you be, checking the nigga out.

Speaker 1: 17:26

Not even out. They need to be checking the nigga you like?

Speaker 2: 17:31

you just said you look him in their eyes. I don't even look these niggas in the face. I'll be like what's?

Speaker 3: 17:36

up.

Speaker 2: 17:37

Take that disrespect though but I don't know, you like I don't know you, I don't need you. Why are you trying to look me in the eye? If you look me in the eyes, you're trying to intimidate me. That that's how I take it.

Speaker 3: 17:47

See, but that's the thing I feel like. That's showing respect.

Speaker 1: 17:50

And see it's crazy, bro, because I talk about this at work. It's culture. Some cultures believe that looking somebody in their eyes is respect. Some other cultures don't look at me in my eyes At work or business.

Speaker 2: 18:02

Yeah, bro, now I don't have to necessarily look you in the face. You see me do it all the time when we talking, I be looking, I just. Yeah, bro, I do it all the time.

Speaker 3: 18:14

I'm going to paint this scenario real quick because you know we was out for New Year's. And you remember that station that was in front of us and they said they was from U-City. Yeah, had they turned around and got to talking and introduced themselves, you telling me you wouldn't look them in the eyes through that whole conversation. I looked them in their face yeah, that's eyes face pieces, nose, mouth. You look this man I did.

Speaker 2: 18:36

I did look him in his face like you.

Speaker 3: 18:38

You're not gonna turn away.

Speaker 2: 18:39

I know that yeah but I, I, I don't know, I have the tendency to not look at people Sometimes. I just Okay, I get you so it's situational for you, you feel like yeah.

Speaker 1: 18:51

But I feel like it's the same thing For Unique Cause he said he bring, he kinda like Go to a nigga and he want him to feel the energy to see how they react to it. You do the same thing but you qualify niggas For that motion. That's the only difference. You qualify certain people or certain situations and that's when you apply that energy.

Speaker 3: 19:10

Nah, this nigga disqualifies them from the job.

Speaker 1: 19:11

That's what I'm saying. Shit, you know what I'm saying? Until they qualify themselves. Nigga said you got to qualify yourself. Yeah, bro.

Speaker 2: 19:18

You got to pour into the bucket, nigga, you can't just come with a full one.

Speaker 3: 19:27

You got to come. It's funny. So let me ask you real quick this might you know, this might throw it a different direction. You hearing this statement, have y'all ever heard this saying don't ask for permission, ask for forgiveness yeah, yeah, for sure, what does?

Speaker 2: 19:36

that mean to y'all uh, go ahead and do it and apologize later within context you know what I'm saying. I think I think what that means is don't come to me for everything. Like you should learn how I move, so that you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1: 19:46

I think I think what that means is don't come to me for everything, like you should learn how I move, so that you know what I need. I think that's what that mean. You know what I'm saying, like I feel, like most people if I, if they say that, they say that to people they trust. You know what I'm saying. Like, just like, hey, watch how I move, learn my, learn my shit.

Speaker 3: 20:03

Then I'm gonna trust just for you to do what's necessary right and I think for me, I think they're saying it's about trust, because, yeah, I'm moving how I want to move. You know, I'm saying, uh, with confidence, and if I mess up, that was a part of the learning experience I'm gonna ask for forgiveness later. Yeah, so, but nah, yeah, I'm. I think that's part of that's part of the movement, confidence, but that's teachable, but that's what I mean.

Speaker 2: 20:30

It's not in a reference to relationships, it's in reference to people that you know, if they selling a little something on the side and they might be, oh man, I got to go get this and go spend all their money on that, but don't have no money for gas and don't have no money for food and stuff like that, bro, you, you just broke yourself trying to go and and re-up. You know I'm saying yeah, it's, it's, it's a, it's about the hustle, but at the same time, like if you pouring into your business, but you should have a plan and a way to do it. You know I'm saying you shouldn't be at the spur of the moment. I'm finna, just throw this money, do it. You know what I'm saying. You shouldn't be at the spur of the moment. I'm finna, just throw this money into it. But I get what you're saying. They gonna do that and be like hey, I'm sorry, bae, I know the lights, finna, get cut off, but Ain't no repercussions.

Speaker 1: 21:19

I got this business, but it is repercussions that's the problem. So, like, all right. So if you this is the thing so if you wait till you successful, if you wait until you make the moves, all the right moves, and everything lines up perfectly before you take the leap, you behind? Yeah, because the niggas who was risking it and jumping out there and you know I'm saying doing what they need to do, they ahead of you, they got the hustle already, they already move and they accelerate you over here trying to make sure you fill in every bubble.

Speaker 1: 21:46

You know I'm saying you. You cross every t, dot, every I, and that's not necessarily bad in all the situations, but in some situations you need to know like this is a risk I mean am I willing to risk it, or am I willing to play it safe and it take a lot longer?

Speaker 2: 21:58

it depend on the risk the risk ain't the risk has to be worth the reward. Yeah, you can't.

Speaker 3: 22:04

You can't go in and risk it all in the business, shaky, see, I think, I think that and this going into another lane I think the person that you describe and is a worker, not a like an inventor, like he, a person. You gotta give him a task. Yeah, he can't go out there and just complete and do a task from the ground up, from by itself. I think that's most people, though, bro I think that's the problem.

Speaker 1: 22:27

Most people is worker bees. The way we grew up most niggas is like I know how to go to school and do a school. Say I know how to go to work and do a work. Say I know how to do what my mama say I know you know, what I'm saying, like I know how to do what people say. We gotta break that mentality because most cats the cure for cancer is amongst one of these dumbass niggas who need to become a smart nigga.

Speaker 2: 22:47

And for y'all all right to visualize that the worker you need to be told what to do. You need a standard operating procedure. Now that's the stuff that I create. You need to be a person that's going to be like. I know how to make this process better. You got to think you know what I'm saying. You can't take what people say and start running with it.

Speaker 3: 23:14

These drugs got these civilians out here overthinking and fizzing it, and I'm saying that because these dudes ain't know how to move. They need people to show them there's a lot of overthinkers and I'm saying these drugs because these dudes is on know how to move. They need people to show them they don't they over. There's a lot of overthinkers and I'm saying these drugs because these dudes is on them pills and all that yeah niggas don't have everybody escaping life don't nobody know how to navigate it.

Speaker 2: 23:35

No more.

Speaker 1: 23:35

Everybody want to escape into drugs, escape into music, escaping.

Speaker 2: 23:38

You know, I'm saying, like everybody, leaving, leaving life, escaping the work escaping to, to, uh, your your mental, but like escaping there, figure out something that you can do like I said, out of life.

Speaker 1: 23:49

You know, I'm saying like write that down, but like I said yes, exactly a plan.

Speaker 2: 23:54

And like, go try to find to do things. Like you see somebody doing something, bro, look it up on youtube. Go google it, bro. Like try to figure it out, bro. Like and if you don't know what it's called, like try to figure it out, bro. It's so much shit out here for you to do chat. Gpt, goddamn me, like it's so many.

Speaker 1: 24:11

Ai, bro google, got they on ai. You know, siri. Now this is a ai built into that with apple intelligence go figure it out. So many things that you can do, bro.

Speaker 3: 24:19

I was gonna ask you then. So, like the person who's trying to gain knowledge on moving with confidence, moving how?

Speaker 1: 24:24

they want to move.

Speaker 3: 24:25

What type of resources, what type of knowledge can you offer them?

Speaker 1: 24:28

all right. So number one, bro, it depends on what you want to do. So, similar to what montay just said, right, I think that the first step is acting like you got it. So you gots to go find a source who all right, so like me. This finna be funny. But back when I was 11 years old, bro, I swore I was gonna be a superstar and I, I brad nigga. I had the chain like usher, I had the shirt rolled up at the sleeves, my big jeans, and like.

Speaker 1: 24:52

You know what I'm saying. I used to be gliding across the floor throwing my chain around, like, but what I did was I emulated the person that I thought was the most successful at what I wanted to do, and so then that became then. I developed my own style after that, from how I dressed to how I dance, to how I just move through life in general, because I started researching resources. I feel like if you want to start acting like you got it, you got to find somebody who already doing it and then try to emulate what they're doing, at least in the best way as you can. That's my advice.

Speaker 3: 25:23

You got my take with some answers to that advice you got.

Speaker 2: 25:29

I'm gonna tell you what's your answer to that. So, to piggyback off that, I want to let people know that going to buy balenciaga and you know purple jeans and all that, like you can't dress like you got it, you got to have the mentality like you got it. You know what I mean. It's different when you try to dress like you got it.

Speaker 3: 25:50

You're going to be broke, you're going to be paying for stuff that you know what I'm saying people are looking at and then you're going to wash it a couple times and you ain't going to be able to wear it. They be living beyond their means.

Speaker 2: 26:00

Yeah, for sure I don't understand that. But my advice would be exactly what the title is move like you got it with the mentality, not your clothes.

Speaker 1: 26:14

Shout out to dochi, if y'all look at it, that's how she was doing that same thing. Like they was posting old youtubes of her saying like she got fired. And she's like I guess tomorrow I'm just gonna go to a whole bunch of studios and I'm gonna do a whole bunch of this and then fast forward. She just won a grammy, so you got to move with that mentality like she got fired from her job. It still was like whatever, I'm finna go make music, I'm gonna go do what I need to do and now fast forward she shifted her energy and focus on something else and I'm not I'm not anybody to like change your mentality, anything like that, but y'all need to.

Speaker 2: 26:48

You know. Like figure it out, go and do something more. Like look it up, stop asking people about, like stop asking for other people's opinions. Go find facts. You know what I'm saying. So move. Like you got it you ain't necessarily gotta had a money but you to have the mentality to be like all right, I know I'm going to have it, I know I'm going to have it, I don't know when and trust in God.

Speaker 3: 27:13

There's a shift in today. I'm glad you brought up God.

Speaker 2: 27:18

Shout out to Cheese. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3: 27:27

If you want to, you know one of the people who read the good book. Even biblically, the scripture says our words have power we have to speak things into existence, um, and I believe moving like it's already yours plays into that. So we be in our community and our coaching man. We always down on ourselves like we be talking bad on ourselves like man I'm I'm dumb as hell like it just be stupid.

Speaker 3: 27:44

Like, look, look conversation like this, like man, my stupid ass. I'm tri as hell Like it. Just be stupid. Like, look, look conversation like that, like man, my stupid ass. I'm tripping, like when you really just cursing yourself. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2: 27:52

And you know what Procrastination starts there too, because as soon as you start being like, all right, I'm going to put it off, you start thinking about, like dang, I don't think that's going to work, do it?

Speaker 3: 28:03

Like, do it and ask for forgiveness later and we not finna all see her and act like we haven't went through that.

Speaker 2: 28:09

Yeah, for sure.

Speaker 3: 28:09

Like we do that. That's something that you got to battle daily. You know what I'm saying, but just be consistent with it. Yeah, that's all it. Take your word has power. Give yourself some affirmations in the morning or something you know before you go to bed. I mean, you shouldn't be waking up in no bad mood, for if you do, man, hit them, get on your knees, go.

Speaker 1: 28:31

Go have a conversation with a man upstairs. I like how y'all phrasing it. And uh, to go back into the good book, as my brother said uh, faith without works is dead. You know what I'm saying? Like faith without works is completely dead. When you, when you look at it in a situation we keep talking about, like act like you got it, but you gotta put something behind it. Like you gotta act like you got it, but you got to put something behind it. Like you got to act like you got it, but still go read. You know what I'm saying. Still go study, still go figure out, like, what it takes to get to that next level. Don't just walk around here as a shell of yourself. You know what I mean.

Speaker 3: 28:58

You got to want it for yourself Absolutely At the end of the day and think that's, that's a problem too.

Speaker 2: 29:03

We we waiting on everybody else to give us opportunities to know when they're trying to grind getting that trench into that trophy but it's so many, so many people that don't know what they want to do, bro, like if you don't know what you want to do, you gotta try everything, dog, everything. The problem is they scared to feel and you can't be scared to man, you can't.

Speaker 1: 29:25

It creates desperation, and I think that's the problem, because you look at these kids now, bro. It's a lot of kids that know how to do a lot of stuff they editing their own videos, they creating their own content, they doing all kind of skills. So they got it, but they still empty inside you know what I mean.

Speaker 2: 29:39

but they learning those things, but they need to learn the fundamentals because they learning that shit too early Cause. Guess what? What they going to do when that stops? Tick tock, tick tock.

Speaker 1: 29:54

That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 2: 29:55

Cats crash out Cause they don't have to learn how to just do one thing, you got to do it all and you got to learn. You got to be able to, to learn and get through that process. Like my bro I was telling, telling brother, like I was telling both of y'all that my uncle told me let my son be a son, let let not let him be a son, but let my let my six-year-old be a six-year-old. When he gets eight, when he gets seven, show him seven-year-old things and get him ready for eight-year-old things but, let him be that.

Speaker 2: 30:21

So you gotta let him learn. And if they show up, if you, if you see a passion for something cool, like, buy into it, but still keep them on track. You know I'm saying some of these parents is like no, that's all you're gonna do. You're bringing in the money, let's go. No, it can't be like that. Keep them doing what they supposed to be doing, bro, because they ain't your. They they're gonna be your money ticket for a little minute, but once they fall off, it fall off make deposits and plant the seeds yeah, hell yeah make the pies and plant the seeds.

Speaker 3: 30:52

Water. See what happens. Watch it grow.

Speaker 1: 30:56

I like that, though, because you, you I just posted something on instagram. I was talking about that t I uh was talking about having a vision and moving with a vision and the importance of not giving up your vision, even when other people don't understand it. Yeah, yeah, you know what I mean. I think that that's important as well. I feel a lot of people have a vision, they have an idea, but somebody in their life told them, oh, that's not good enough or that's stupid, or no, I can't see you being successful at that.

Speaker 2: 31:19

So they, then they run away from it.

Speaker 1: 31:21

You know self-sabotage or they self-sabotage because they realize that they actually might be able to achieve it, and that scares the hell out of them.

Speaker 2: 31:28

Not even that. It's like me with the music. I just I don't want to put myself through all of that, not to be successful, bro. I just don't want to do it.

Speaker 3: 31:38

You feel like it's wasted. Yeah, it's time wasted.

Speaker 1: 31:41

Y'all really feel like time can be wasted.

Speaker 3: 31:44

Not necessarily yes, when you're not building something productive, absolutely, but I always think you're thinking though that's interesting.

Speaker 1: 31:52

I was like, yeah, I feel like I always learn. Even if it's something that I don't do for myself, I learn. I'd like I learned something about that situation. So I feel like time, I feel like it's a mindset. Time being wasted is a mindset because even with a person let's say you, somebody, waste your time on a date now you've learned, you've learned triggers, you've learned situations. You, you can learn things about them that looks like all right, cool. You, you feel like your time was wasted, but you, what you really did was you learned a lot about yourself and that person this thing.

Speaker 3: 32:21

I want to laugh when you talk about that.

Speaker 1: 32:22

Look at me I didn't say nothing. I mean, I'm just talking about a general situation. But if niggas want to talk about their own drama, that's just on them.

Speaker 3: 32:29

I found out exactly what I needed.

Speaker 1: 32:31

Y'all know that.

Speaker 3: 32:33

Disqualified.

Speaker 2: 32:34

It was just relatable. Hey say what Pew pew.

Speaker 3: 32:37

Disqualified. He was out of there.

Speaker 1: 32:40

Snip, I'm out of there. Hopped the fence with both hands, hey shit yeah, hey, that's.

Speaker 2: 32:45

That's funny. I'm good, hey, but we tapped into a couple episodes ago. You seen red flags, bro.

Speaker 3: 32:58

Yeah, you know it's, but like it's, just like, like we talked about it. You saw, I saw the red flags and um, I still wanted that confirmation. You know what I'm saying. I don't feel like that was wasting time, because I needed a confirmation.

Speaker 2: 33:14

Yeah.

Speaker 3: 33:15

You know what I'm saying, but I feel like it becomes a waste of time when you saw it and you, despite the fact that you saw it, you still kept on dealing with it.

Speaker 1: 33:28

So you can waste your own time. Yeah, yeah, okay, I agree with that. I don't think other people could waste your time, because I think you learned something you allowed it to happen, yeah, but you, you wasting your own time.

Speaker 2: 33:38

I agree with that do you necessarily think you're wasting your own time? Because I'm, uh, I usually when you not doing something, you're thinking, not everybody, bro, that's certain people and that's what I learned. Some people could go blank real quick and be good and be straight I can't do it either, bro, but a lot of people can't.

Speaker 1: 33:57

How, bro? They be they be as long as my heart beating my wheels is turning bro but that's also, if you think about it, that's why you sleep less, because your brain is active more often, and so it's stuff like that you got to pay attention to. That. That's a, that's a behavior about yourself. I know, you know what I'm saying. I'm just saying like, and not you, just I'm talking to the masses.

Speaker 2: 34:19

Yeah, people in general to the masses, but yeah, like you just got.

Speaker 1: 34:21

That's something you got to pay attention to if you don't sleep for real, or you somebody that's like that's always up at the same time of night all the time it's for a reason. You know what?

Speaker 3: 34:30

I mean, it's for a reason.

Speaker 2: 34:31

You're not a sleeping disorder boy I know, because I don't sleep, that much, you know, I know, yeah, I mean, I only sleep when I'm exhausted, bro, like and I and I can't like my wife she can sit there and close her eyes and go to sleep. I'll be like, please show me how you do that, because I gotta pass out, bro, I'm jealous of that.

Speaker 1: 34:52

My wife can do the same thing, but it's hard bro.

Speaker 2: 34:54

I have to pass out.

Speaker 1: 34:55

I gotta be tired. I can't just go to sleep If I ain't doing nothing that day. If I was chilling that day, I'm like bro.

Speaker 2: 35:02

I'm up.

Speaker 3: 35:04

I have to pass out. I have to be watching.

Speaker 2: 35:06

TV.

Speaker 1: 35:06

It's gotta be involuntary.

Speaker 3: 35:07

Yeah, I have to be watching TV, and just it's involuntary when y'all sit on my couch and I come over my crib and just be snatching y'all ass up. Yeah, yeah, his couch, hey Couch, will be snatching y'all.

Speaker 1: 35:18

When we move. I'm probably finna give the CPU system.

Speaker 2: 35:24

You're like wait a minute?

Speaker 1: 35:28

What happened that mother take all the confidence out of the nigga?

Speaker 2: 35:31

You hear me, hey, all right. So look, hold on.

Speaker 1: 35:39

Real quick, I want to make another call back because last episode remember I had told y'all that story about the cat with the clipboard at Six Flags. He was just standing in line, acting like he was selling, selling tickets for people to jump. Cat was moving like he already had it, bro, like like cat legitimately walked in with a uniform on and start taking money but that was a hustle line, bro.

Speaker 1: 36:00

That was a hustle though but but he even for hustle. So if you listen to the last episode, then you know where we coming from, but you gotta move like that. So even if you listen to the last episode, then you know where we coming from, but you got to move like this. So, even if you feel like you don't have a hustle, you're going to go about life the right way. You know you're going to school, going to college, you're going to graduate and get a great job. That's amazing. That's great you don't have the traditional hustle.

Speaker 2: 36:21

But you still have confidence.

Speaker 1: 36:23

You know what I'm saying. Let me stop playing. But you can't have confidence and I just want to make sure that, like, whatever you do, move, like you got confidence because people feel that, like I said earlier, people can understand, like they'll, they'll realize that you belong in the room even before you enter that mug, just by the way you walk up to the door yeah, some people see you and be like man.

Speaker 3: 36:43

I wonder what he do bro and then all you did was walk in bro, and you there for an interview.

Speaker 2: 36:48

You know what I'm saying, so it's just like it's something that you got in you it's just like at my job, like I got, I gotta, I gotta offer for another position. But I didn't get it. But the confidence I had leading up to it and through it, even after after was it was up there. I had great confidence and they saw that and they still reach out. You know what I'm saying for stuff. So it's like just having it. You're going to build those relationships. You know what I mean. You're going to move forward in life. You're going to go way past what you ever thought you're gonna. You're gonna. You're gonna move forward in life. You're gonna. You're gonna go way past what you ever thought. When you think about what you, what you think, when you think about things like, oh man, I, I could do it, you're gonna go way past what you really think you could do just do it go ahead now.

Speaker 3: 37:44

I'm saying this real quick like I wanted to kind of ask y'all this. We can go with this. So this is exactly why we need to go ahead and get this woman on the pod, probably because it's geared towards the women. Um, what do you say to the women who move like they do? Because a lot of women who move like they already got it. They're saying that men are intimidated by that.

Speaker 2: 38:05

Men are intimidated by that, that's okay. So that's the man's fault. You know what I'm saying. If you intimidated by what the woman got, that's your fault. You should shoot your shot, see if she rocking with you and level up.

Speaker 3: 38:23

Some dude be thinking that'd be overconfidence too, though.

Speaker 1: 38:29

Yeah, some people find it immediately unattractiveive and I completely understand that in certain situations, but I feel like it depends on how strong your energy is. I think that you should be able to keep the core essence of yourself, like especially in a dating situation, but be able to like soften up to see what somebody else is like, because you gotta be able to like exactly, exactly.

Speaker 1: 38:46

I was just going to say it's not something necessarily for women, but I do think that in in those situations you gotta be mindful of do what's more important projecting who you are, what you've accomplished and what you've been through, or learning this person so you can learn how to like join y'all lives together. I think those are two different mindsets and I'm not mad at the women who lead with those things. Just understand that a lot of men in this day and age find it unattractive. So you're gonna, you're gonna push some away before you ever get a chance to know. And to my taste point, I think that has a lot to do with the men.

Speaker 1: 39:17

But you can't change the man, just like we can't change the woman right, and I think they might be saying that because you see this push we having with this soft girl era but I love that, though, I love this whole soft girl because of allowing a woman to feel confident because a man has come in to set the stage for her, like that's the part we want to make sure that we remind people of is because a man has come in and properly set the stage so that she can let her balls down and be a soft girl, you know what.

Speaker 3: 39:45

I'm saying Like that's necessary. This cat let her balls down this cat dog.

Speaker 1: 39:52

Damn, something wrong with him. But we've come to the end of the podcast, but before we get up out of here y'all, I want to make sure that we leave y'all with a gem, right? So what's one thing that y'all can leave with the people that they can take home with them so they can be like all right, this is what I'm going to use to act like I got it or move like I got it, anything on y'all mind, just like.

Speaker 3: 40:15

I said before, man, just your words have power. So speak that positive energy to existence and give yourself affirmation. Stop downing yourself. You know, spend some quality time with yourself. Build yourself up. Your confidence will grow as well. Get you some books to read, go get in that gym, go be outside, go just walk. All that is going to build your confidence up, for you to be able to move how you want to move, and when you walk into places you'll have that level of confidence about yourself. So then you'll also exude the energy and then the energy be will be returned to you.

Speaker 1: 40:54

I rock with that.

Speaker 2: 40:55

I like that, I'll tell you guys, I think I say you just have to believe, you have to have faith. You might have stones right now, but them stones may turn into hundred dollar bills. Go through the motions, have faith, believe in yourself and that'll give you all the confidence you need to walk it like you talk it, act like you got it real shit, real shit no I rocks with that, I rocks with that.

Speaker 1: 41:23

Um, and in that, in that same vein, like nah, what do you say? On that same vein, like no, what do you say? On that same token, I think, like the world starts to move in the way you need it to when you stop acting like you need it to. I think that when we start losing that spirit of desperation and we start learning how to turn that into confidence and we start clearly seeing what our options are, that's when the world starts opening up doors for you. You stop acting like, oh my God, I'm panicking about this, I'm anxious about this and that, and you just start letting life come to you and making decisions as they come to you, instead of trying to live in the future. You start realizing you do have everything you need to act like you got it, move like you got it, talk like you got it, smile like you got it. You know what I'm saying. Whatever got it, smile like you got it. You know what I'm saying. Whatever the case is so right, so all right.

Speaker 1: 42:11

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Speaker 2: 42:26

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Speaker 1: 42:51

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Speaker 2: 42:51

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Speaker 1: 43:00

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