Speaker 1: 0:04

you are now tuning into trenches to trophies podcast. It's your boy, mate carlion.

Speaker 2: 0:09

We lie, we lie y'all ever been in a situation where you scrolling on social media or you, let's say you, out at a movie theater or a bowling alley. Let's say you go back home, real quick, right, and you see somebody that you ain't seen in hell. It's like and y'all used to be hella cool right now. This could go one or two ways now. Either that's somebody you just fell out with, y'all just ain't talking a long time. It ain't no beef, it just y'all ain't talk right, right. Or it could be somebody that's like nah, nigga, y'all fell out bad. Last time you seen them, y'all was like nigga, I don't ever want to see you again. If I see you, it's like that. But it's been years. It's been like eight to ten years. You know what I'm saying. How you handle them situations, bro. Like how you handle that, like legitimately, like, especially being the age you are. Now you see somebody you ain't you. I mean, y'all is not cool bro.

Speaker 3: 1:13

I like, like I said before, man, I ain't got no smoke from nobody. Man Like it's it's. One person is that that I would have an issue with, but everybody else I'm just gonna keep it pushing. It ain't.

Speaker 1: 1:29

But what if?

Speaker 3: 1:30

What if?

Speaker 2: 1:31

what.

Speaker 1: 1:31

But what if? And?

Speaker 2: 1:33

y'all had no friends, and I don't mean like necessarily like family per se, like that you might have fallen out with, but I mean like friends, people that you might have considered family at one point, right, but they wasn't born into your family, they was just people you grew up around. Y'all went to school with you know what I'm saying?

Speaker 3: 1:48

let me spit it like this because I don't want to speak personally. Then, um, because personally I ain't got no, I ain't got no beef with nobody, man, I ain't fell out with nobody to the extent I mean, that's, I feel like, but, um, in general, like if I had an issue with somebody and I ran into them and it was an issue, man, I'm finna, you finna get this work, and it's on the level of why we start beefing in the first place, like what was it.

Speaker 2: 2:16

What got you to that point? Yeah, I feel like for me, I've been somebody who's been fortunate enough to say maybe I've had a lot of friends I think that people use that term kind of loosely, you know what I mean like I feel like I've had a lot of associates, right, but when it comes to like friendships, I have had a lot of people who have, like, had my number. We've hung out like I've, we've had deeper conversations and stuff like that. Or maybe we had an event and experience like it's some niggas who I used to rob with.

Speaker 2: 2:42

I used to go up in Schnucks and tear shit down Like you know what I'm saying, who they got a. It's a special place in my heart for them niggas. Them ain't like my best friends and no shit like that, but when I see them niggas, it's love. You know what I'm saying. However, there's also people I grew up with who we grew apart but but I don't necessarily have that same type of connection with no more. It's just kind of like we grew away from each other. There's a reason why I walked away from that friendship. It wasn't just time and distance, it was like there were behaviors going on that I didn't necessarily align myself with.

Speaker 3: 3:13

So now I'm like he finna say something, but I get what you're going with it. I'm thinking that you're going through the aspect of somebody did some dirt.

Speaker 2: 3:22

I mean either way right, I mean both. I feel like both ways right, because there's also those people, Because there's people that you know who initially had smoke with me and then it just died down out of nowhere. You know what I'm saying. It was like oh no, no, no. Then it just fizzled out.

Speaker 1: 3:38

You know what I'm saying. I feel like now like the people that had an issue with me or I had an issue with them. I feel like we grown now and if we see each other, we just gonna keep walking unless it was some real smoke. Like, if it was some real smoke, I'm clutching immediately, like, especially, all right. So now it's a different situation, because if I'm somewhere, I might be with my family. So if I see somebody back in where I'm from, bro, no, I'm clutching immediately no, like, but I ain't going to start nothing. You know what I'm saying Like because I'm with my family, or whatever.

Speaker 2: 4:24

I mean, but I feel like that's safe, right. So one of my homegirls she had just shared a memory of Fourth of July in St Louis, when them cats was downtown and they was just like spraying A lot of people had like 13 people got injured or something crazy like that. Right, it was a wild situation. But she's not black and the people she was hanging with wasn't black, so it ain't like we could say like oh, it'll only be happening in certain parts of the neighborhood.

Speaker 1: 4:47

No, it happened everywhere.

Speaker 2: 4:48

Like it happened everywhere. You know what I'm saying. So it was like it was amongst the people during that time. So there's always something going on. So when we say, or when Monte is talking about clutching, he ain't saying for no reason, it's because people unfortunately be doing dumb stuff. You know what I'm saying. So, because we talking about exactly what we keep referring to, that right, we keep saying like I don't have beef, no more. I'm grown now I'm in this situation. So let's let's switch gears from coming from that situation right, living amongst those types of people and being in those types of situations, to where we, at now, you had to lose some people. There had to be some friends you either lost because of relationships or because they didn't, they wasn't rocking with how you was moving, no more.

Speaker 2: 5:29

Right but that's what I'm saying. So, like, talk to me, you know what I'm saying, cause obviously niggas is thinking about that shit. You know what I mean. Cause I feel like, for me personally, during the pandemic that was that was big Like during. During the pandemic, that was that was big. Like during that, I feel, like 2000, between 2018, 2020, like a lot of friendships for me changed, like the definition of a lot of friendships changed, because my life had changed a lot.

Speaker 3: 5:54

You know what I'm saying, so, yeah, but then a lot of them, boys, start showing their colors.

Speaker 2: 5:58

You know, you know they start showing traits that you didn't see before but I also think sometimes, when it's your childhood friend, bro, like you forget people supposed to change their behavior. You know what I'm saying. Like you forget that, like, even though you've known that person for forever, they are supposed to like grow I'm gonna say something before, before I even get in, before we even get into it.

Speaker 1: 6:25

If you are a friend that I knew back in the day and we ain't seen each other and we ain't kicked it, we might have said what's up here and there on Facebook or Instagram or some shit like that. But if we ain't seen each other five to ten years, I don't know you, bro, like you know what I'm saying, like we don't know, we are not the same people as who we used to be, and so I had to realize that to some people like we, not the same, you might. Hey, I don't know what you want, you don't know what I'm on we are not the same I am a martian and see, bro, and I ain't

Speaker 2: 7:03

going to lie to you, bro. That's a more recent lesson that I've learned Like throughout my years. Like I said, I've been more fortunate to be like I've always been one of them cats who kind of floated Like. I ain't necessarily ever been a part of one group of people, like you know, because I moved around a lot. You know what I'm saying and the thing is, y'all niggas said that last episode, if you've been listening these niggas is repeating jokes, but nah, but I feel like this nigga be tapping and whispering and shit. Lucky I ain't got my headphones on. I can't hear shit. Right, I can't hear the whispers, but I do feel like, uh.

Speaker 2: 7:51

So, for example, like I definitely got a couple friends that I grew up with, people I knew since elementary school, but I don't rap with them, no more. It ain't no beef. But I also feel like once I started making more adult decisions, I recognized that they had no intentions to at that time. Yeah right, even if they did, they weren't acting on those intentions. So I feel like sometimes it wasn't like a friendship breakup. Like you know, I ain't one, I don't want to be your friend, no more. It was more like a I'm gonna do my thing. You know I'm saying I'm gonna move over here and I wish you the best. You know what I'm saying. Like if you ever need me, call on me, type thing. But like as far as, yeah, like day to day Situation Nah.

Speaker 3: 8:33

You know what I'm saying. I'ma say something real. I don't know. I'ma say how I feel for real, but you should.

Speaker 2: 8:38

I feel like you should.

Speaker 3: 8:40

If you a friend I'm not going to put family in this category for this conversation right now. But if you a friend, a homie or something like that. If you ain't heard from me at least once a year, you ain't my homie.

Speaker 2: 8:53

I see, I feel like, ah, that's hard.

Speaker 3: 8:57

That's hard for me, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm going to say on some personal you some personal.

Speaker 2: 9:10

You know I'm saying, and the only the only reason I say that is because, like I said, there's some cats that I was close to like. So my sister got a best friend and her younger siblings it's people that I've known since I was in kindergarten and them was like, them, like family to me, like I referred to them more as family, but we could go four, five years without talking to each other and it's like it's just respect, like I never forget. So I my cousin, right, and he used to do these kickbacks and but I never forget, like it had been a while since I had seen him. I popped up at his kickback and I remember dude was talking about some niggas who was eyeing us on the other side and he was like I ain't worried about them niggas, you know how we where we at, and he looked at me and I was like, yeah, nigga, like I just started Shaking my head and it's just like it's a thing you understand, like, yeah, nigga, this ain't, this ain't that type of party.

Speaker 3: 9:48

I only said that Because I really wanted that stamped Like right now. That's what it is. Yeah, that's what it is.

Speaker 2: 9:54

But I feel like For you that's a respectable boundary Because for a nigga like me, you be around niggas who in four, five years, like what Monte was saying, they could change, they could go to the pen. Niggas make stupid decisions, they could get caught up with people who you know what I'm saying, or get on drugs and shit. So niggas can't shift and change.

Speaker 3: 10:10

Y'all know how I move. Like I said, at least once a year I'm going to check in. Y'all know I'm big on that right now.

Speaker 1: 10:29

So I'm look, niggas don't hear from me a lot because I don't be calling people, but the people that make sure to reach out and hit me up, like my partner hit me up all the time but like, and I don't never hit him up, that's how I know he fuck with me the long way. You know what I'm saying because he, he like bro, I want to, I don't know I he got a friends bro, but he make sure to call me and tell me about everything. Bro, that shit be funny as hell. But yeah, so most people like even family members, bro, like I, just I had to.

Speaker 1: 10:58

Sometimes relationships are hard because you have to distance yourself from them. Relationships are hard because you have to distance yourself from them, not that, like you said, not that they doing something wrong, but they're just not making the right decisions, bro, like they, they're not moving forward, yeah, but I do have to say this that's, it sucks, because that's not my place to say, oh, I'm, I'm not going to be your friend because you're not thinking forward. But like people say in music and you hear it all the time millionaires, be around millionaires. You can't be successful being around somebody that's stuck in one place and is not moving. Can't do that so how?

Speaker 3: 11:47

you? All right with you saying it. At what point should you be able to identify that the red flags?

Speaker 1: 11:56

immediately. But the fucked up thing is, as a friend, we willing to step away from them but not tell them about themselves.

Speaker 2: 12:04

I see.

Speaker 1: 12:05

I feel like in multiple situations.

Speaker 2: 12:07

That's valid right.

Speaker 1: 12:09

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 12:09

But I also think that there's only certain things that you can kind of tell people about. You know what I mean. I think there's only certain behaviors that you feel like can be discussed with people. So, for example, one of the friends that I stepped away from right it was more so some of his parental decisions that he was making. Now I'm somebody who doesn't have kids. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2: 12:29

So the ground I have to stand on could be a little wobbly compared to some views of some people, but I feel like some of those decisions that they were making didn't make sense. You know what I'm saying and I feel like I was like I vocalized that, but other than that, like I'm not gonna be the dead horse, because like again, what point of view do I have to come and stand on? All I can give you is my moral compass and be like hey, hey you, I feel like you need to be doing this rather than this. And once you continue to make that, the other decision I separate. You know what I'm saying, because at that point you don't want better. You decide, you're deciding this. You know what I'm saying because at that point.

Speaker 1: 13:07

You don't want better. You decide, you're deciding this. You know what I'm saying? That was a breakup. That was uh. Yeah, I'm saying that was one of them like you fucking up, I can't deal with this shit no more. But have y'all ever had a situation where y'all had to, um, like physically fight one of your friends and and it got distant?

Speaker 2: 13:26

I mean, I feel like growing up I fought a lot of my friends like we fist fought a lot of. I fought, I fist fought a lot of them and things got distant, came back. Distant, came back, yeah, but like as far, like I feel like for me once I hit adult age, if we putting hands on each other, nigga like bro, we at a different stage in life, it's like why you that mad with me, bro, like what we doing to each other, nigga like bro, we at a different stage in life, it's like why you that mad with me, bro, like what we doing to each other, bro, what kind of friends is we to where we gotta come to blows squabbling at this age now no, that's what I'm saying right now, look right, I'm gonna say for me all right, we're gonna stop talking about, for me personally, we squabbling right now with no gloves.

Speaker 3: 14:03

Then, yeah, that's different.

Speaker 2: 14:05

Yeah, we got gloves on.

Speaker 3: 14:06

Hey, we need to get Something off real quick, but that's what I'm talking about.

Speaker 2: 14:09

I'm talking about. Like all these videos, we be seeing the niggas Open palms Smacking another grown man.

Speaker 3: 14:13

Nah, that's disrespect. That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 2: 14:15

That's a little further. You crazy, you crazy. Ain't no way I'm finna sit down and eat pop tarts with you after that?

Speaker 1: 14:22

Nah, because if we friends like us, or brothers, whatever you call yourself. Man, you put your hand on somebody, brother, and y'all ain't had no conversation before that. Bro, what Nah bro? Immediately, we have a problem, we have a big problem. That's what I'm saying, bro.

Speaker 2: 14:43

That's a different energy you bringing into the room, because I agree that, like as homies, you should be able to have a conversation with somebody. Like if somebody has some behaviors or something that you don't necessarily agree with, you should be able to sit them down and have a conversation. But I also think that people need to be like accountable to their own actions. Like how easy are you to talk to? You know what I'm saying? Like yeah, you want people to be able to be open and say these things, but you also got to be like, you got to position that in your friendship you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1: 15:09

All right now, me and my partner y'all know this. Me and my partner always had this conversation. But are we real when we not being real with the person that we having a disagreement with? Are we being real, like we a hundred percent real but we ain't being real to the person that we having a problem with? Are we being real?

Speaker 2: 15:35

I feel like the thing is when we say that we, we view outward like, do people view me as real if I, if I fuck up like this? But I think really what you need to think about is like you're questioning yourself. So do you feel like that that's real? Like if you're not living up to your own internal values, then I would say yeah, I know, you know what. I'm saying I was, but other than that, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3: 15:57

And speaking just, I guess, being real in this day and age, bro, it's just about being consistent in whatever you believe in and whatever it is you're standing on. If you're consistent in whatever you're standing on, you're being real about it. You know what I'm saying? Don't waver, or whatever you're standing on, you're going to stand over there. Stay 10 toes on that side On over there. Yeah, you know what. I'm saying Don't waver, so that's it like. But if you talking about real nigga like, that's a different story, different topic cause he done.

Speaker 2: 16:30

Seen it at the job, I'm like nigga watch but, bro, I feel like that's hard right, because you also gotta wait shit out like that's like it remind me of that day, remember he was like when keeping it real goes wrong like nigga. Yeah, you kept it real, goes wrong Like nigga. Yeah, yeah, you kept it real, but y'all. What's the result Of that situation, bro, like you gotta be smart, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1: 16:52

So Sometimes the result Ain't what you want.

Speaker 2: 16:55

Yeah, bro, you gotta, you gotta weigh things out, and I Nah, you straight, you straight.

Speaker 3: 17:01

I need to bounce back to the red flags though, man, because of the. Let's go back to relationships as far as dating, and red flags Y'all want to discuss that, bro, okay.

Speaker 3: 17:09

Yeah, I feel, like who that this is one thing I'm going to say. We all ignore red flags, and this is what I mean by that, absolutely For sure, because if you venting to your homie about something this girl or this man has done that you don't like, you are identifying the red flag, like you're saying the red flag right then and there you know what I'm saying so you're ignoring that red flag.

Speaker 1: 17:36

So I feel like we all identify red flags and we just choose to ignore it yeah, because of the people that either we are trying to get to know or the people that we know and we just trying to just like my cousin. It's a lot of shit that it's just annoying, but that's my nigga. So, yeah, I ignore it. But now that's one person I tell the absolute truth.

Speaker 2: 18:08

Hey, bruh, you can't be doing shit like that but you gotta set the grounds for that, and I think that's the thing that a lot of people forget, right, it's like, even if you go read up on friendships or relationships in any context, the you can't hold somebody to expectations that they're not aware of. Yeah, you see what I'm saying. So, like in y'all, in y'all relationship, there has been a time at some point where y'all sat down it was like, hey, motherfucker, don't lie to me, I'm not gonna lie to you. You tell me everything, I'm gonna tell you everything. Like you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2: 18:37

Like there, had to be a place where I did that.

Speaker 1: 18:40

But he said dating, bro, ain't too many red flags. I'm gonna be like, uh, yeah, nah, I'm gonna keep no hell nah.

Speaker 2: 18:52

Listen.

Speaker 1: 18:53

Like cause when I was young.

Speaker 2: 18:55

I'm like, come on, bruh, when I was.

Speaker 1: 18:56

Nah, bruh Cause, when I was young Bruh it was it was certain shit, I wouldn't fuck, I would not Be fucking with you.

Speaker 2: 19:03

Like what, though, nigga Cause? Ain't you trying to tell me it wasn't no cute chick With no bad breath, that you look past Hell?

Speaker 1: 19:09

nah, yes, it was.

Speaker 2: 19:10

That's what I'm saying. Like you know what I'm saying, I look way past her ass.

Speaker 1: 19:13

Fuck. He better be clean Up in this motherfucker what.

Speaker 2: 19:18

But you know, that was just an example, but you know what I'm saying, so you trying to tell me you ain't had no bop Growing up bro. Like no butter face or no like okay, so look, so look, I've had relations with those type of chicks.

Speaker 3: 19:38

I ain't had no relationship you ignore the red flag with I ignored a lot of them motherfuckers.

Speaker 1: 19:52

Yes, I did. Because it was people telling me hey, why is he doing that? I don't even know how they knew I was doing shit.

Speaker 2: 20:00

I mean don't get me wrong, bro. Not everybody you know what I'm saying lowers their standards and shit. You know what I'm saying. I've definitely been in situations where I took one for the team, don't you? Say a lie and say you did that, I'm like, yeah, nah, I definitely yeah. I mean, it's definitely been multiple situations you know what I'm saying where you look past things. Better raise the hand. I definitely ain't gonna yeah, I ain't gonna front at all. And if you, you're gonna take it to the but those aren't red flags.

Speaker 1: 20:27

You did that willingly.

Speaker 2: 20:34

I had a wicked moment. It definitely wasn't a moment. Nigga was making life decisions.

Speaker 1: 20:37

Because I did it too, bro, so it was just like it was one of those like damn.

Speaker 2: 20:44

But when you say red flags, are you talking about like personality traits? Because you're talking about like behaviors.

Speaker 3: 20:49

You're talking about things people do you know what I'm saying? Yeah, go deep with it, because we playing around with it. Yeah, but yeah, behaviors. You know what I'm saying Because?

Speaker 2: 20:55

like when I think of, when you really think about that. Right, you got to step back and be like one everybody is a different type of person and then you got to think about Like cause. At this day and age, as an adult, you may tolerate a few more things, you may be like I actually been through some shit, or blah blah blah hey, because remember, we was just talking about this shit.

Speaker 1: 21:18

So for me, where?

Speaker 2: 21:20

uh huh, that's what I get for being a nice nigga. Look, oh, you were saying something Nah.

Speaker 1: 21:25

I was just saying my bad Nah.

Speaker 2: 21:28

nah, that was, I was just talking about my perspective.

Speaker 1: 21:35

nigga go ahead my fault no you were talking, but look we, we heard something, uh, the other day, right, and the guy was calling up his chick or whatever, or the lady he was trying to court called her up and was like, yeah, what you doing? She was like I'm getting ready to go get my nails done and he was like, oh, that's what's up. And she got kind of like upset, right, because she was like, well, normally somebody would be like how much you need, you know how much you need. But he was like no, because, because you know, that's what I'm trying to get to know you for you know, I'm saying like I do those things for the person that I have a relationship with, but I just finna buy that for you.

Speaker 2: 22:20

So that's a huge red flag, bro but see, I feel like that's hard, because if the new school, the new kids are being taught that this line here is the bare minimum, we can't necessarily speak against them to say that they're not real. They're being taught that this is what they're supposed to expect, and then get to know somebody, then you can fall in love. But they got to at least have a car, a job, six figures. They legit are being programmed to think this way you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2: 22:52

So it's like yeah, like that's the baseline, when in reality your daddies don't make that much money, and if they do, they had to work hella hard to make that much money you know what I'm saying like or you know what I mean. That's. I think that's the situation. Don't get me wrong. It's not that it's not women out here who deserve to have those standards. It's that, like all of y'all.

Speaker 1: 23:10

You know what I'm saying? Like dang, like everybody. Here's the thing Like nobody deserves the nigga who makes you?

Speaker 2: 23:15

think.

Speaker 3: 23:16

I'm getting you right.

Speaker 2: 23:17

Nobody deserves that nigga.

Speaker 3: 23:18

Okay, what makes you think?

Speaker 2: 23:20

Well, you Screw that, nigga huh.

Speaker 1: 23:22

You know it's like, how are you going to feel that way when you just now meeting this man? You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2: 23:32

Like what you just now met me, how you going to take that, where you going. But I think, okay, but think about from your daughter's perspective, right, like, technically, you want the best for them, like, if you like, you like, nah, I want you to date a man who show up with a bouquet of roses on the first day. I want you to date a nigga who pull up, open the door, roll out a red carpet. You know I'm saying I roll that bitch back up, throw it in the back seat, like.

Speaker 1: 23:53

But see, you know I'm saying yeah, but see, I I do have daughters and I want her to respect him, just like he gonna respect her. So that's disrespect, right there. You thought you assumed that I was finna pay some for you, like why, why? You think that what? You assumed that I was going to pay something for you, like why, why you think that? What made you think?

Speaker 1: 24:13

that, but that's the new age, bro, like my daughter is going to be able to have it for herself and she's going to look for somebody that has it for himself so they can have it together.

Speaker 3: 24:21

I don't, so this is my thing with that. I guess I don't. That's hard bro bro, I don't think that would be a red flag for real cause. I think that's a corrective action like that's what you mean that's a conversation that you can talk to this woman about to see what her values like.

Speaker 2: 24:37

It's a conversation so then you can educate that person but see, I feel like that's hard but that'll cause an argument early. I definitely don't rock with stuff like that, though. Like I definitely have like been around somebody and they be trying to argue with me like the second time I've been around.

Speaker 3: 24:50

I'm like oh like somebody who's trying to argue with the waitress and waiter and stuff like that's how you treat people like this nah, but see, think about that though.

Speaker 2: 25:00

Think about if everything else was good, like their conversation was good. They look good, they smell good, they educated, they got good stuff going. It seemed like the vibe is good, but you see them do that. You feel like that's a, that's a deal breaker no, that's something.

Speaker 1: 25:13

You see what I'm saying, like now, that's something that you can work on, like that's something my conversation made it to be had.

Speaker 3: 25:20

What's what specifically? What are you talking about?

Speaker 1: 25:23

like if, uh, you're talking about the restaurant shit yeah, yeah so if she was everything that you dreamed of, and it's just, we went out one night and the service wasn't too bad, but her standards were so high that she thought that she could just disrespect the waiter, that'll be something you'd be like hey, like why? Why are you treating them like you can see? How she take coaching you know what I'm saying at that point you can see how she receives criticism like yeah, you could test it out.

Speaker 2: 25:58

It's a red flag that I feel like something that I don't think it's worth cutting it off, but I do think it's worth a conversation I don't think I would say nothing at the dinner.

Speaker 3: 26:07

No, I think that's kind of nasty, because that's just how you treat people.

Speaker 1: 26:10

How many dates, is this the first? Date oh, hell, no, hell no, because we don't know each other like that but I would I ain't gonna lie somebody like me.

Speaker 2: 26:20

If everything else is good, i'ma talk to you about it, and then i'ma see what's up, because i'ma see okay, do you not like this nigga? Did he do something to you? Do you know this nigga? There's something do I? Something happened during the day like I'm gonna, I'm gonna have, I'm gonna be more inquisitive dude, I'm gonna take you to a different restaurant simp traits.

Speaker 2: 26:40

Hey, hey, hey. I always been here for the ladies, no, but but for real though, like I'm, I'm just saying like, if she rocking with everything else, that ain't, that ain't something I'm gonna let go, because that's why I wanted to see how big a red flag y'all considered that to be, because for me, if it's that on top of other things, then yeah, but just that off rip. I'm gonna have a conversation with you, be like what the hell was going on with that?

Speaker 1: 27:05

like, damn like yeah, I gotta roll that back a little bit too you know what I'm saying, like you was tripping out on bro.

Speaker 2: 27:10

Yeah, like you know, I'm saying like you, I probably wouldn't even approach it like that.

Speaker 1: 27:14

I'd be like, damn, what do you do? You know, I'm saying, make it as a joke, or something like that but, then that's where you get the conversation and and be like damn so yeah, that's what I'm saying, though.

Speaker 3: 27:26

so you talk, you get, you get to explain it to her what you feel like she did wrong, how she should approach it, but then she be like but he ain't no buts. So now you have a rebuttal.

Speaker 2: 27:38

I'm done. I hear you, I hear that, I hear that because your mindset is not open. Yeah, yeah, you feel like you justified in whatever you said, instead of walking it back and saying you know what.

Speaker 1: 27:54

I did kind of trip out you explaining like that.

Speaker 3: 27:55

Yes, so I'm not that's.

Speaker 2: 27:55

That's that's. You're disgusting because you doubled down in your logic.

Speaker 3: 27:57

I definitely agree with that. You're doubling right, you're doubling down on how you feel.

Speaker 2: 27:59

Okay, y'all ever seen the movie boomerang with uh eddie murphy yeah, so that's what it remind me of. Like dude was picking out like this, like the smallest thing, like chick was bad. He looked at the toes like oh hell, no, like I ain't, I can't rock with that oh you, uh, you, kids boomerang, go, look it up, right right, I'll be forgetting, like nigga it's, it's whole grown adults. That ain't you know. Ain't got nothing to do with that movie, you know, 89, maybe I don't know, bro, hey he was

Speaker 3: 28:27

young. It was young. Yeah, it was a while ago it was a while ago, it was young Eddie, Young Eddie, young Hallie oh yeah, yeah. You want to see you on the shift real quick, man. I want to talk on relationships still, but hit on this when losing relationships, how much? And you get real with it real quick, Real quick and think about it. What relationship have you lost in your life that you want to speak on? That hurt?

Speaker 2: 28:54

I've had a few Friendship family, you know relationship.

Speaker 1: 28:58

And I ain't talking about in death, but like. I said it was a breakup, Not in death.

Speaker 3: 29:04

You can always speak on that, but I'm talking about friendships and acquaintances.

Speaker 2: 29:08

It's so many, though, dog, that's what I'm saying like it's it's. It's hurtful to sit here and actually think about it in totality, like dang for me, one that sticks out is my cousin bruh.

Speaker 1: 29:22

The recent shit that he snapped on my mom and my sister and shit. But before that even happened it was. It was more like him putting him, putting his family members in situations, brother, that could potentially get us locked up and shit like that. You know what I mean. Like taking our cars and shit like that, just because he feel like who he is, he can do what he want. You know, that kind of dampened our relationship in the beginning. Yeah, but because you did this to my mom and my sister, I ain't even hurt, bro, like I'm more angry about it. And then I rapped with his son and shit and he was like yeah, he was like he don't fuck with you. And I was like, bro, you went off on my mom and now you talking about you don't fuck with me. You know what I'm saying? So like it's just shit like that.

Speaker 3: 30:16

Like like I said, you're doubling down on it yeah, bro, like so it's shit like that, bro.

Speaker 1: 30:22

Like I really don't, I really don't fuck with people that do that, bro, and I mean I'm at the age in my life when I cut you off, you cut off bro. My mom is like, hey, I'm willing, because he's still family, I still want to, you know, support him. And I'm like, fuck that.

Speaker 2: 30:40

No, I can't do it, mom, that's understandable but also I feel like that's hard, bro, because I feel like that come from loss, that come from like dealing with disrespect for so long that you get kind of fed up with it. So you get some real strict boundaries in place. You know what I'm saying, yeah, and like I feel like that's tough right, because it's like you shouldn't have to live that way, you shouldn't have to have had to make those decisions. But I also have to understand that you in it to protect yourself. So you got to make sure that you keep those boundaries in place.

Speaker 2: 31:10

Like I always tell my wife, cause I've, like I told y'all like I'm somebody who's had a lot of different friendships and because my family is small, I've always considered friends like my family in different contexts. You know what I'm saying. But with that, when you lose those friends, it's like losing family. You know what I mean. So it's like that's what I said. It's been hurtful in a lot of contexts. I got people who nigga, I thought I'd be with for forever you know what I'm saying cast. I was like that's my, that's, bro, what you mean. Like you know what I'm saying. Or that's this what you mean, like whatever the case is, and then something transpired where that no longer is the case. But even with motherfucking, uh, people updated bro, updated bro, like nigga, I'm a lover bro, like that shit be hurting bro, you know what.

Speaker 2: 31:52

I'm saying Like for real, cuz it hurts Bruh.

Speaker 1: 31:56

But I feel like, I felt like there was puppy love.

Speaker 2: 32:01

That's why it hurt.

Speaker 1: 32:02

It hurt so bad, I mean it's developmental, bro it.

Speaker 2: 32:05

It caused you to grow and I that's something that I've accepted in life. You know what I'm saying. Pain is the thing that, like, help you grow. So I understand that, like now, it was beneficial for a nigga, but going through, it.

Speaker 3: 32:15

It was like bruh bruh like nigga the world is ending, nigga.

Speaker 1: 32:20

What are you saying right now?

Speaker 3: 32:21

oh my god like bruh nah so that's the only thing I can really speak to. I haven't really had any friends or homies that I've lost with a falling out that I really call my partners for real, I think I've been very selective on who I let close for real in that capacity. But as far as relationships, yeah, you know what happened, boy. Yeah, yeah, we got across some waters. I was out in that sandicking sand, Punching Sandbags, bro. You know I can't do nothing that hurt hit different bro, but be on this. Nokia phone Paying for minutes, calling back stateside Stressing.

Speaker 2: 32:59

Stressing man.

Speaker 3: 33:00

You know what I'm saying so. And then amongst other things, I was dealing with Bruh, but Well, yeah that Picked up my stomach and really, like I said, being gone Boy, I can't do nothing. Shout out to somebody in particular. They know who they is, with somebody I can holler at during that time frame.

Speaker 2: 33:20

But okay, so let's stay in that pocket, right, Because?

Speaker 2: 33:24

I feel like that's an unspoken thing, right, how we get through those situations. It's a lot of people that come in clutch. It be cats that come from straight out of left corner like be like damn that nigga came through and help because if it wasn't for that motherfucker during that particular period of time you like she did that thing hey, and it's crazy, bro, because I've had, I've had friends and I'm not gonna say I've had friends because they still friends, but we don't talk like that.

Speaker 1: 33:54

Yeah, but I remember I used to date this chick but I got into an accident and she straight pulled up and was trying to take care of a nigga. I was like damn you know what I'm saying like she bro, she bro, she didn't want nothing, bro, she was just like she fuck with me, like that. So I was like damn, like people really do you know, fuck with you the long way. And I guess I don't know, bro, what they I don't know like I guess being cool with them is just that in return, bro, that's all they need, that's enough, yep bro, that's all they need.

Speaker 1: 34:28

That's enough yup, yup, and that's the. That's the friends you want, bro them, the friends you want.

Speaker 3: 34:32

Like that's about they feel fulfilled with just you know what I'm saying just showing up hollering at me yeah.

Speaker 1: 34:37

I would have shot you out. I swear to God.

Speaker 3: 34:39

But uh I am like I'm gonna edit this. I ain't gonna lie to you. I'm gonna do it right now man Shout out to you, shout out for me personally. Shout out to Tavis. Shout out, shout out Jock.

Speaker 2: 34:51

Nigga gonna shout out the whole Spartan squad.

Speaker 3: 34:54

nigga Nah not even that about it For real. I ain't gonna lie.

Speaker 1: 34:58

Shout out. I can't shout out. Everybody, bro. I'm like bro, if I'm selective, I'm a massive, big.

Speaker 3: 35:03

It's easy for me to do that because I ain't got too many bruh.

Speaker 2: 35:08

Y'all niggas gonna get Shout out with different stories Along the way. Niggas, it's too many, cause like when you say Especially cats that showed up For you, you know what I'm saying, cause there's certain people that show up that that help change the trajectory Of your life in different ways. You know what I'm saying. But even all three of us Sitting here, that's why where we are, because niggas was able to build off of each other.

Speaker 3: 35:27

I got more homies that I got from the military than from back home, though.

Speaker 2: 35:31

Really, yeah, I mean, but that makes sense to me because y'all I mean you going through the same type of shit. It's like a big ass football team, like y'all had a bunch of niggas who y'all niggas had to. Eat and sleep and shit, you know what I'm saying, so it's different.

Speaker 3: 35:51

Nah.

Speaker 2: 35:52

Nigga said nah, not all them niggas.

Speaker 1: 35:54

I mean nah, not all of them, cause you don't like all of them.

Speaker 3: 35:57

You like, fuck some of them, niggas. But you know, nigga, I ain't dying for you, boy.

Speaker 1: 36:00

Nigga get ready. Oh they shooting.

Speaker 3: 36:05

You finna be a butter sponge, probably finna grab your ass.

Speaker 1: 36:08

You gon' die first, nigga.

Speaker 2: 36:13

Oh man, I ain't going, but is there any relationships or friendships that y'all feel like? Ultimately, when it ended, it made you better. Yeah, oh wait, you know what I'm saying? Yeah, so like.

Speaker 1: 36:22

That when I was speaking of you know my partner, bro, I mean bro. We know my partner bro, I mean bro, we, ah, man, that was my dog, but we got into it and fought and I think that ruined it all. Man, and he was one that was speaking on my relationship that I was in at the time and it was like you know how it is, bro, you really, as a friend, bro, you just don't, you don't speak on that man relationship. You know what?

Speaker 1: 36:49

I'm saying plus, he was dating one of my exes at the time. So it was like double down, you know what I'm saying? Like I, but I didn't really care, bro, because he was infatuated with that girl. So it was like, bro, I don't care about that, but at the same time hold on nigga did you?

Speaker 3: 37:04

did you know he was a facet way with it? Yeah prior to you, but she liked me. I can't do nothing about that, bro, like sorry hey you slime me nigga, hey, but no, I mean, I mean I didn't know and I didn't.

Speaker 1: 37:25

I mean it wasn't, it wasn't like it wasn't like Bro was like oh, I want her.

Speaker 2: 37:29

And I was like she like it took her.

Speaker 1: 37:31

No, I was about to recognize she was bad and was like yeah, but I didn't know that he was like In Chicago slang you broke this, bro. I didn't know, I didn't know. It wasn't my fault, man. It wasn't my fault, man.

Speaker 2: 37:50

But I feel like were solid at the time. You kind of realize and you step back and look at kind of how they life with you, like I wasn't supposed to be here for that.

Speaker 1: 37:56

Like I wasn't supposed to be around for what they got going on. Bruh be bringing down one of my other homeboys, bro. He called me and was like bro, I need $15. I was like I'm gonna pay you back. I said man, look, do not pay me back. I said pay me back by not getting yourself in a fucked up situation yeah, like watching, you know and I love that nigga, bro, I love that nigga to death.

Speaker 1: 38:21

But if he died, yeah, I'm going to his funeral for sure, and I'm going with full force with my family and everything, but at the same time, bro, you, I didn't do that to you bro. Yeah, like I told y'all niggas what I'm doing and how I'm doing it, and it's if y'all ain't with it, bro, like y'all ain't with it bro, I had a whole studio in my basement.

Speaker 2: 38:39

Bro, niggas ain't want to come through see, that's something to talk about, because that's what that's that? Them, the friendships that I'm talking about, bro, because when you sit back and you think about it, it's not that you don't love them niggas, it's not that they not your motherfucking friend, it's just that whatever decisions that they making, they can't come. You can't come with me. You know what I'm saying. Like whatever they got going on unfortunately you can't come over here like everybody can't go you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3: 39:03

My mama said I can't have company you can't come over hey, it was weird too.

Speaker 1: 39:09

Bruh kept getting locked up and getting out, uh oh.

Speaker 3: 39:13

Uh, oh, uh oh. You know, what I'm saying.

Speaker 1: 39:16

Ay, but I didn't pay attention to it Until I got hurt and the homeboy called me and was like, did you ever pay attention? And that nigga kept getting locked up With all these pills and just kept getting out. I was like, no, but damn, head splint Didn't realize that. But yeah, man, I had a lot of friends that I lost, bro, that made me better.

Speaker 3: 39:41

That made me a lot better. I can highlight it, man. Y'all know, recently I lost something that made me better.

Speaker 1: 39:49

Most recently. You know what I'm saying tripping do you feel every relationship like with a girl made you better in some type of way, though?

Speaker 3: 40:01

definitely everyone.

Speaker 2: 40:02

Everyone what's that was crazy that's supposed to be the importance of dating. I think that's the problem. We get away from it because we run away from heartbreak and stuff. But if you think about it, that's why we're supposed to date a bunch of people when we're young, because you're supposed to get through it. It's supposed to grow you, you're supposed to learn what you want I learned through this one.

Speaker 3: 40:19

I value this. Yeah, learn through this one. No, I need this. I learned through this one. I can receive this. It's possible. Yeah, you know what I'm saying, so, yeah, you learn you should.

Speaker 1: 40:29

Lots of relationships, and they always say that you have Three beautiful relationships. Well, two beautiful relationships, and then you have One that you married. You think that's true?

Speaker 3: 40:42

You said that One that you married.

Speaker 2: 40:44

Two beautiful relationships, and then one that you married.

Speaker 3: 40:46

I'm behind.

Speaker 2: 40:47

I'm behind the power curve.

Speaker 1: 40:48

In your case, I'm screwed. You blew it. I don't know how you. You went backwards, nigga, and here they I'm going to marry this one, divorce this one, and then I'm going to go down the line and I'm just going to have a good relationship.

Speaker 3: 41:05

But some people do that, though. I mean that nigga, they got their uncle, they got that one relationship that for the longest His homie. That's their friend. They're together.

Speaker 2: 41:13

He's going to be sitting on the back porch telling stories. Now look, young blood With nephew. Now I see you didn't brought her up in here, but no, but that's the person you marry.

Speaker 1: 41:23

You marry your friend, bro. I had enough relationships to be like. I don't want to be like this anymore. This nigga had to have me.

Speaker 3: 41:40

Hey, I was like it's over, I'm I am looking for a queen, nah, but straight up, man, I mean I want to cut this because I want to hear from this, because I know your transition when you got out here so I mean every relationship that you have make you better absolutely and I feel like like and when I say relationship Cause, I wanna define this right Cause relationship In different context.

Speaker 2: 41:58

Cause I've definitely had Full on relationships that I consider Cause you better. That I was with somebody and then I've had Talking relationships. You know what I'm saying? That I feel like Helps grow you what's talking relationship.

Speaker 1: 42:07

You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2: 42:07

I feel like somebody, somebody you you communicate with for months on end. Y'all may not be in a committed relationship, but y'all you have each other's attention.

Speaker 1: 42:14

All right, so say he was talking to somebody. Can you cheat with the talker?

Speaker 2: 42:19

I think that's again, bro, that discussion was longer than mine.

Speaker 2: 42:26

It's an understanding nigga, so like you, should have a conversation. But that's why I say like it's a difference between when we was dating and like these younger kids dating. Like for me, as an adult now, like you should be able to have a conversation. Like you know, you can talk to whoever you want to talk to. I'm going to talk to whoever I want to talk to Now. If you want to call me every night, I'm going to answer because I like rocking with you, but if you decide to talk, can't get upset with you for that. You know what I'm saying. Like that's supposed to be an understanding that you have.

Speaker 2: 42:57

But for me personally, hell yeah, nick, again, talking about what I'm talking about, my family's small, so my dating relationships was impactful on me, yeah, I mean so I definitely had dating a few, dated a few people, and I feel like they do grow you every time. I don't know I was still doing a lot of dumb shit during a lot of uh, during a lot of those relationships, but I feel like the last relationship I had before I left my hometown.

Speaker 3: 43:15

Go ahead bro.

Speaker 1: 43:19

I don't know what he laughing at.

Speaker 2: 43:22

And why you look guilty laughing. I don't know. Nigga hiding his head and shit. That wasn't me.

Speaker 1: 43:28

What happened?

Speaker 2: 43:29

I'm sorry because I'm only laughing, because I don't want to name it.

Speaker 3: 43:32

I'm thinking of one particular relationship, but I'm thinking of how, how did this relationship you learned from anything or made you better? And I'm going to give you a hint of who I'm probably talking about. You know what I'm saying Occupation Fly the bird.

Speaker 2: 43:49

Oh, I mean for me personally, relationship uh yeah, this nigga, this nigga.

Speaker 1: 43:56

I don't know why the fuck.

Speaker 2: 43:58

I did it like a boat so so for me it was about cutting things off sooner, right, like learning how to uh cut things off at a certain stage.

Speaker 3: 44:08

You because look nigga was ignoring all the red flags.

Speaker 1: 44:11

No look this thing he was telling me about him, though yeah, but like for me.

Speaker 2: 44:16

For me it was like, but you gotta think that was a journey. That was a journey for me mentally, yeah like it was like something I had to go through exactly but like, but you needed it, but every every step of me.

Speaker 2: 44:27

That's what I'm saying, like every step of every person that I've ever dated, I I needed that for development of myself. Even the current relationship that I'm in it has taught me a lot about myself and the things that I come from and how, even though I come from those things that don't make them correct. So, like, even when we're talking about these relationships and losing friendships, I'm not necessarily saying that I was correct in the way that I approached all of these things. You know what I'm saying. I'm just saying that that was my stance on shit. I felt like for my growth, for me to go where I was supposed to go.

Speaker 2: 44:54

It was a lot of people that I had to cut off. Like you know what I'm saying. Like it's relationships that you hold on to that you've had for a long time that you don't want to let go and you gotta let them remnants to get the fuck up out of there. Delete them pictures, delete them contacts. You know what I'm saying. And like you just watch your life kind of pushed forward. But I definitely say to this day, like moving down to houston or the houston area is what I'll say, but me moving down here and like being able to talk to different people and kind of get out of my hometown. That shit in itself taught me a lot about who I am and what I'm able to do like and me being not willing to meet new people and make new friends.

Speaker 1: 45:35

That tells me a lot about myself and how I'm still like closed minded about just moving here or being out of St Louis period. I just I feel like I got enough people in my life at this point. I don't want no new friends. I've been hurt too much.

Speaker 2: 45:52

And I think that that's kind of part of the problem too. Like, when you talk about leveling up, it's a lot of leaving shit you leave jobs, you leave people, you leave but you're really supposed to leave mindsets, you're supposed to leave bad habits and shit right, because one thing we haven't talked about is we've talked a lot about shit that's happened to us, but we ain't talked about the trophies. How the fuck did we get to the trophies? How did we get past those things that we said hurt us or fucked us up?

Speaker 3: 46:17

and now we we say we have leveled up right I feel like my trophy is for me in regards relationships is I'm on. I'm on the opposite of what my take is, like I'm open to having, at this point in my life, more relationships and developing friendships because I'm in a space where there's networking. You know what I'm saying. I'm trying to network and grow and that's going to come with building bonds. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, developing relationships and friendships, and that's not going to do anything but make my life better and the people around me better. So why not? And it's helping my progression, because I used to be in a state man, I ain't trying to hurt, I ain't trying to be your friend, homie, and I'm still kind of off that. If you just walking up on me like nah, it ain't like that, it ain't friendly, I'm going to say hey, how you doing and be respectful, right, but that's where I'm at, like that's my trophy, like I've grown into that. I'm trying to, I'm seeking out and trying to network and put myself out there.

Speaker 2: 47:23

I would agree with that, because I feel like and then in your context you take this how you want, because I ain't saying you should cut nobody off but I feel like for my life, what I've had to do is like the more people I lost, the thicker the loyalty got. Like I may have had more friends that I did more things with, but when I trim my my friends list down a little bit, those are people that I poured more into and there was a more intimate relationship. Yeah, so like that was kind of how how it happened for me. Now I do. I kind of I agree with both of y'all. I think I want to grow my network. I want to grow people that I have around me that are considered resources and I can be a resource for, like my.

Speaker 2: 48:03

One of my dreams is to literally be a one percent owner in like a bunch of companies. Like I don't really want to contribute that much. I want to help you with your dreams and get a lot of money for it and then go about my day Right, but Good to know you know what I'm saying. Like that's definitely just that's. I think it's good to 1%, because I got ideas. Bro, I'm going to give you ideas and go about my day. You know what I'm saying, but that's. That's just how I feel like you should go about it.

Speaker 2: 48:25

Man my and I feel like I missed a whole part of the conversation.

Speaker 1: 48:30

I was supposed to, like, say something, talk about your trophies and stuff.

Speaker 2: 48:33

Oh okay so, yeah bro, yeah bro, but I feel like so for me personally, like the best advice I could give people is to like lean into that shit, like something that like from somebody who has experienced a lot of like, loss and grief, from relationships to all kinds of other things Acknowledge that shit. Like, I feel like life tries to teach you to tough that shit out and like ignore it and just kind of keep your head down and burrow through it, but step back and just figure out how the fuck you feeling Like if you mad, acknowledge that you mad. You know what I'm saying. Like, if you, yeah, like and I feel like a lot of niggas are scared of that they feel like that's pussy shit. But I feel like it's take a strong motherfucker to go through your thoughts and your feelings and sort that shit out and come out a better man on the other side you know I'm saying so isolation.

Speaker 2: 49:23

Yeah, I'll do that quarterly you just, hey, you feel like that's healthy and I feel like, but I feel like it's intentional as well. It's not like something you dip away from people and then you gone for eight to nine months.

Speaker 3: 49:36

You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1: 49:36

I be getting little heads up like hey for going to that Western Nine Young, but I'm straight yeah for me, bruh, it's the silver lining, bruh, because, like, I sometimes like, like, like, like I said, like I had to step back and be like man. This shit had to happen for a reason, like all these relationships that are lost, friendships that just grew apart, and you just look at the silver line, be like, damn, look at what they doing, it might not align with nothing that you doing. So you might just not want to. You know you good for them.

Speaker 1: 50:16

You know I'm saying damn, I like what you doing, bro, but that ain't what you doing right now. You know I'm saying so. It's something that you shouldn't, even you, you you wouldn't have been worried about or into anyway. So you look at the silver lining, bro, you wasn't supposed to be there. There was. This shit was supposed to happen for a reason. I don't even worry about it. You know that's how I look at it sometimes. But like they shit, like my cousin, I can't. That's where I draw the line. Hey, bro, my bird and my sister, bro, like, as I don't give a fuck how old I am, I just can't do it, bro, and I mean that's something I need to work on. You know what I'm saying being more like my bird more like my mom. I feel like it's never going to be the same, but I feel like I could speak to him again and shit like that. Be cordial, me not so much.

Speaker 3: 51:11

Yeah, you know what I'm saying. I ain't saying I ain't trying to work on my forgiveness. That's still a work in progress.

Speaker 2: 51:17

I mean I feel like, I feel like the bro, I feel like that's forever a work in progress, though I feel like because people gonna continue fucking up yeah, so you're gonna gotta, you gotta continue working.

Speaker 1: 51:25

We're not god bro, we don't forgive all.

Speaker 3: 51:27

We gotta put that forgiveness and reconciliation. We gotta run that back.

Speaker 1: 51:31

Yeah, but would y'all say that I'm holding a grudge, though.

Speaker 2: 51:34

I definitely think You're really good at that. You're really good at holding grudges and not calling them grudges.

Speaker 3: 51:41

And then, because it's the principle, it's the principles, is what I'm saying.

Speaker 2: 51:46

And don't get me wrong, it's not that you'd be wrong about it, but the call to spade, to sp a, it may be a justifiable grudge.

Speaker 3: 51:54

I feel like you know what I'm saying. I feel like a grudge Is when you probably Start letting it affect you. Yeah.

Speaker 2: 51:59

Okay.

Speaker 3: 52:00

That's what I mean. That's what I mean, if it don't affect you.

Speaker 1: 52:07

Yeah, cause, would y'all say it's my attitude? Like the Hulk, nigga, I can chill, like a motherfucker, I'm good, but nigga if the situation ever got to that point, nigga, I'm going to bring that energy, just like how it was when I was upset.

Speaker 3: 52:20

That's what I'm getting ready to say. I feel like something is affecting you. If you see that individual or something like that, you start acting differently.

Speaker 2: 52:28

If it take you out your bag. So that's something that I definitely have learned from some ogs like, okay, even when it come to come to my woman. My og told me he was like if you at the bar with your woman, right, he was like your woman at the bar he was talking about he was playing darts. He looked, he looked over as a dude talking to her. He went back to playing darts, right, because she'll let him know if she's in danger, you know what I'm saying, so he just needs to play it.

Speaker 2: 52:52

Cool, chill.

Speaker 1: 52:53

Same situation when we around people we don't like, right, we should be fine as long as they don't get to tripping, or doing nothing outside of the pocket and that's what I was about to say like I I probably would be chill and like, because when we plan to be around each other, uh, after that situation, right, I told my brother I was like I ain't finna trip unless he start tripping with you. And they still was like you need to leave it alone. I'm, I can be, I can be cool, but like I don't have to, I don't have to be rah, rah, rah, rah, because I know I can fight like I'm not worried about that.

Speaker 1: 53:31

You know what I'm saying the confidence is there, yeah, but like I know I could bang, like me and bro, this is my big cousin, but he taught me how to fight, so I ain't, I ain't worried about that but I don't think it's, I don't really think it's there, bro.

Speaker 2: 53:43

I think that cementing yourself as a man is more than that, bro, because think about back in the day, bro, everybody was crazy and them niggas didn't used to say fight. If you ever trip off there, bro, I want you to go think about what the old head no, them old heads used to tell you exactly what they was finna, do Nigga, I'll break your leg.

Speaker 1: 53:59

Oh yeah.

Speaker 2: 54:00

And would break your motherfucking leg, nigga, I'll cut you. Or they pulling a knife out. Nigga and finna cut you, that's different. But that's what I'm saying, bro, it's a different mindset. It's a different mindset. That's what I'm saying. These young niggas is the same thing, bro. Ain't nobody squabbling up? Them niggas is shooting bro. Yeah, nah, not right now. Them niggas is All them Bro.

Speaker 1: 54:19

It's like elementary, they just yeah, but this fight you nigga.

Speaker 3: 54:34

I just thought about when you was talking about old heads fighting nigga in the episode Boom docks.

Speaker 1: 54:39

Two old head niggas fighting. I was talking about the trash nigga, bro Tim. Hold on, hold up, hold up. Hey, most awkward moment of my life, bro, yeah, yeah. Y'all remember the episode of the next door neighbor dude, what's his name? Next door neighbor Tom Tom. Yeah, yeah, yeah, f*** who. He in the f*** episode. Oh, bro, bro, I like you and I want you. He's standing there, he just finished fumbling the soap and dude's standing behind him my wife walk in the room.

Speaker 2: 55:24

She like what are you watching?

Speaker 1: 55:25

And I'm cracking up bro.

Speaker 2: 55:28

This is hilarious. He's about to get fucked, whoa.

Speaker 1: 55:34

I'm laughing like what the fuck? It was right when dude was standing behind him, though. Like right when it was panning to the.

Speaker 3: 55:43

She thought this nigga was watching gay anime porn World.

Speaker 2: 55:47

Because there's layers to that shit, nigga. It's like whoa, How'd you even find this, nigga?

Speaker 1: 55:54

I said, baby, it's the boondocks. Yeah, the boondocks.

Speaker 2: 55:57

Immediately paused and tried to show the credits. Look, it's the boondocks.

Speaker 1: 56:01

I wasn't pausing that shit, but I was trying to fast forward that motherfucker Babe, babe it's not what it looks like it wasn't me. It's not what it looks like, babe. Oh, that shit was crazy, bro. I swear Over with.

Speaker 2: 56:12

Y'all niggas dumb, all right. Well, since we all said that, let's go ahead and close out. Any last thoughts. Yeah, just say one last thing, just whatever Drop your gem, whatever your gem is.

Speaker 3: 56:22

Man faces up. Man, Now that we're holiday season, faces up. Love to everybody. Love on your loved ones, while you can All is why you can.

Speaker 2: 56:29

All right, I'll rise with that. I got a little something written down for y'all. Just remember this right Let me whip up my foot, nigga. That's the point, nigga. Damn you fucking up the outro Shit, all right. So look, just remember this right Everybody want to eat, but not everybody want to cook. And when you start feeding yourself, some folks going to starve because they don't know how to get it on their own. But that ain't your fault. That's life. Just keep growing, keep pushing, all right, this has been another episode of Trench the Trophies. I'm your boy, ant. We're here with Monte Corleone.

Speaker 2: 57:05

He's a unique artistry and we out. Thanks for listening.