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Trenches 2 Trophies Podcast
Trenches 2 Trophies is a relatable, insightful podcast that blends humor and real-life lessons, aimed at helping urban youth find their path from struggle to success. Hosted by 3 young black men from St. Louis are who have now relocated to Houston, we dive into personal growth, leadership, and navigating life’s toughest challenges.
Trenches 2 Trophies Podcast
Nostalgia and New Beginnings Part 1
This episode explores the friendships and memories that shape our identities as we transition from St. Louis to Houston. We share anecdotes about our shared past, what we miss most about home, reasons for leaving, and reflections on love and community.
• Reflecting on how we met and our shared past
• Nostalgia for the friendships and cultural traits of St. Louis
• Reasons behind leaving our hometown for new opportunities
• Navigating new beginnings in a different city
• Discussing the dynamics of love and attraction in adult relationships
• The importance of community ties and giving back
• Plans for future initiatives to support those in need
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What's good, y'all? You are now listening to the Trenches to Trophies podcast. I'm your boy, ant, and I'm here with my people. Monte Corleone and Unique Artistry let's get into it, let's get into it, let's get into it, let's get into it, let's get into it. So all this shit we talked about? I know I wanted to talk about us In all kind of capacities, but I ain't necessarily had no where I wanted to start, because I feel like we're going to jump around anyway. But Hold on, I got an idea let's talk about. Let's talk about how we met each other. Let's talk about how we met each other. Hmm, let's talk about, like, how we all, like, came across each other past type shit, because I think that that'll be funny.
Uniq:I'm interested to see what your perspective is.
Ant:That's what I'm saying. It's all funny shit. I mean I feel like I always tell the story the same, but you know we'll see. But, like you know, welcome to Trenches, to Trophies, the podcast where we discuss all things that are. Trenches to motherfucking trophies, right, but when I think about how we started or like how we gang up. So I've known Unique since high school and then I met Monte, I'm trying to remember the year nigga, was that 2011?
Monte' Corleone:13 it had to be one of them years, I don't think it was 13, it was uh it was 13 it was when his son was born. That's when you, that's when I met you. Yeah, it was the uh. I think it was the baby shower was it?
Ant:oh, it might have been the baby shower. Yeah, it might have been, because he didn't come. Yeah for Chase.
Monte' Corleone:You didn't come with him when he met me. I don't remember who he brought with him, uh-uh.
Ant:I don't think I came to that.
Uniq:I met you in St Louis, though, huh.
Monte' Corleone:Mm-hmm, we at a hookah bar.
Uniq:This huh.
Monte' Corleone:This Huh, we at hookah bar See.
Ant:I feel like I was there. I remember that night, but I don't remember. Really meeting you for real and see, that's the Cause you, I remember you saying you was there. I remember me, you and Yvette, cause I remember me, you and Yvette Took pictures and shit Right, like she was definitely there. Yeah, like I remember that situation, but I don't remember nobody who else was there.
Uniq:Like who else was there, dominique?
Ant:Dominique Damn, and that was such a weird and I think, I think, I think, pat she, came by herself. That's what I was going to say.
Monte' Corleone:I was like Don by herself seems strange to me. They always run together with somebody, some tall, light-skinned girl, it wasn't, huh?
Ant:Might have been Brittany. Nah, yeah, alright, so if we all met, if we met you on the same night, that's interesting. I guess, like the first night I can say I remember exchanging Words with you at, probably the baby shower. The baby shower, cause I remember what was the measuring game. We was talking about measuring the bump, or whatever. Yeah, I think that's the measuring game when we was talking about Measuring the bump, or whatever. Yeah, yeah, I think that's when. That's when we met.
Uniq:We was talking about yeah, and you said that was ours, mine's.
Ant:No, I think that was my first time. Yeah, that was for, yeah for your, for your first born. So that's, that's when we met. And then I know I met Unique in high school Nigga, so Funny. The funny thing is Unique, him and my sister Was talking first, him and my, my baby sister, and this nigga, this nigga Cause and this'll tell you what kind of person he is. For everybody who Don't know him yet, this nigga Was, was he? He tried to talk to my sister and she told him, like my brother had an issue with that Cause, my sister knows how I move. And this nigga told me man, I'm finna talk to that nigga. Like this nigga told me, man, I'm finna go get cool with that nigga. Like this nigga took it as a challenge, but it's hilarious. But from there now, I mean, I remember us kicking it Like we used to have like a little crew Me you.
Uniq:I just started talking about that boy.
Ant:Who else, who else CB?
Uniq:Whooping that ass in McDonald's.
Ant:I'm trying to remember niggas' names bro.
Uniq:CB was there. I was knocking the Sonic coins out, that boy.
Ant:What Bling this?
Monte' Corleone:nigga was this nigga.
Ant:So this nigga, all right. So anybody who ever worked at food service, you know niggas be in there playing and stuff, right, right. If you ever worked at McDonald's, you know they in there. Niggas got to cut tomatoes slices off. So one of our homies the little light-skinned nigga I guess he was- in his feelings. That day he threw a motherfucking tomato at this nigga. This nigga took that as the ultimate disrespect. And then their birthday nigga back off. Yeah, because that mug was wet, nigga, it was sliding down my face. A juicy tomato, nigga.
Monte' Corleone:Bro, I was so pissed, nigga A tomato. You gonna hit me with a tomato.
Uniq:What made it worse is the nigga kept running for me. Bro, Like when I ran around the table to get this nigga, he kept running around in a circle. He was giggling, yeah. So I wanted him to do all that. I said come to the front. So when he came around the front, that nigga got knocked to the register. All the money fell out. That's what I was saying. Sound like Sonic Coins Ding, ding, ding, ding, Bruh.
Monte' Corleone:What happened to that boy Woo?
Ant:But yeah, bruh. So that's pretty much. I mean like in a nutshell, like how I met y'all niggas and then from there it just was experience. You know what I'm saying. Whether it was stuff on the bus at school, I met you. As that was me nigga, I tried to hit him on the shoulder and punch the mic, nigga yeah, I'm gonna have to put this motherfucker in front of me like nah, like when I like I said when I met it.
Uniq:It was I was talking to his sister, right, and kind of like he said you know I was. I was like I don't want to talk to your brother, but I developed a good friendship with him and I couldn't continue with it. I didn't feel like it was right for me trying to you know what I'm saying talk to his sister and I really got a good friendship with your brother. Like I didn't think it was going to mix right and I'm glad I didn't. You know what. I'm glad I didn't. You know what I'm saying. Yeah, I think they worked out that very well.
Ant:That was a good decision. That was a good decision, but I think that.
Uniq:Shout out to her, yeah, shout out to her. Let's see.
Ant:Just had her baby earlier this year. She's a new mom. Shout out to her.
Monte' Corleone:Shout out, shout out.
Ant:But man, it's crazy, right? Because I we all in Houston now, or in the Houston area, quote, unquote. You ain't gonna tell y'all where we really at, but Southside.
Uniq:Southside.
Ant:We in the Houston area yeah like you know, but we all from St Louis, like, we all grew up there, we all was born there, you know what I'm saying. So we all got ties there, whether it's still family, friends or whatever. So I'm curious for y'all, right, I we've been gone now. So I say for myself, I've been gone four years, right, so that's a good amount of time, I think, to settle into a new city, kind of get away from it and compare. You know, I'm saying especially in adult years, because I wasn't an adult there for that long. It was six, seven years, yeah, but yeah, nigga. So, like what y'all miss? Y'all miss anything about the city. Is there anything they like? Like what do y'all miss? Y'all miss anything about the city. Is there anything that like? Like what do y'all think about? Like when you, when somebody say, like oh, where are you from? Like what does that bring back for you? Type shit.
Monte' Corleone:My people, bro. That's what I miss for real. That's what I miss. You know, when I get back to that motherfucker, I hit them up. You know, all my cousins, my brothers, my sister, all my cousins, my brothers, my sister.
Ant:Now I'm going to have to go back and visit grave sites, which is it's cool, you know I feel like that's the call of the city, though I feel like, almost, if you spent any time over like a few years in the city, you probably got some bodies you got to go back and visit. Like I feel like a lot of people. That's like almost like a mark of being at least from st louis, even if you ain't just, you know, moved to live there. If you from st louis, I feel like that's part of the city. You grew up with a story of grief, yeah, some type of loss.
Monte' Corleone:You know what I'm saying yeah, but overall the people man, all my people bro that's and that's interesting.
Ant:You need what you think bro like. Is there anything you miss about home? Like anything that's like. You need what you think bro Like. Is there anything you miss about home? Like anything that's like? No, stick out, boy Nah On base.
Uniq:I mean honestly, man. Only thing Niggas be missing Is China man. The food type, shit, yeah, and like you know, emos, because every time we go home we get something that we didn't eat or we can't get out here, right. So Like castles, right, because every time we go home we get something that we didn't eat or we can't get out here, right, so Right, it's gonna be something, whatever it is. Vicasos, china, chinese food man. We be saying China man boy, that's crazy.
Ant:I don't say it no more. I say chop suey, cause, like Ay nigga, I be trying to. Yeah, bro, if I'm with some niggas and I know that's what they understand. Cool. China it's the China man. Think about that, bro, if I send somebody To St Louis. And be like hey, go get some China man, they gonna go up in there. Yeah, I'm here for the China man. Niggas finna be in there. Like what, excuse me?
Monte' Corleone:Yeah, you here for what nigga? I really ain't think about that. No one has to think about that.
Ant:That's what I'm saying because I be giving referrals for people down here because this a food city. So when I talk to people about St Louis, people go up there for the arts or family or work or whatever the fuck it is. So I tell people stop, get you some rice, here's a couple spots. Get you some emos Piece it, try it out. Walk up in there bright eyed Like, uh yeah, I'm here For the Chinaman. He told me to get a full order of some Chinaman. Like what? That's some crab rangoon.
Monte' Corleone:Now here's the thing that's gonna be on them, cause they stupid enough To go in there and do that. Yeah, like so, but I get what you're saying though.
Ant:Because it's a culture thing. I feel like people don't call it that. Because for people like I wonder what the white folks call it in St Louis. Anybody know White folks from St Louis? Have you ever heard them refer to that? Shit, couldn't tell you, do they just say fried rice, probably so you know that? Ain't said Chinaman, right.
Uniq:I ain't never tripped off that. I ain't never tripped off that.
Ant:Culture, bro, that's one thing I'll say that being here taught me Recognizing other cultures. I guess on a day-to-day it ain't like I didn't recognize them when we was there, but shit, down here I move a little different. You know what I'm saying? All right, so let's talk about this, because I like where we at kind of talk about the city, let's talk about why we left. But Unique, I want to start with you. Why do you feel like you decided to permanently move away from St Louis?
Uniq:It was nothing for me to come back to. For real, I got tired of seeing us honestly, because I went to the military at a young age and that was my first time being exposed to so much different diversity, so it was a breath of fresh air and me knowing where we from. There's nothing but us. All you seeing is black people. All you seeing Is struggle, violence and Just crabs in a bucket man. That's it, but that's it. I just wanted something different, that's it. You know what I'm saying. I am not bashing the city at all. I love my city, but the mentality there Is, it's like a Dark cloud. You know what I'm saying. And I just want something different For my kids, just wanted to expose them to uh, to more opportunities, and I felt like I was gonna be able to get that or do that somewhere else that's deep, though that's deep what you think, mate, because you I mean you you obviously moved later after he did right.
Uniq:So was it abrupt.
Monte' Corleone:Kind of. But overall I feel like we left because of me and it wasn't necessarily like my wife was like, well, you tripping, she took the opportunity and got a job because I was just an all type of bullshit. So she just was like you know, I can get paid better there. I'm we finna go. You know, I'm saying she was like I got a job, I got accepted to. I remember, like it's yesterday, we were sitting on the steps. She was like I got what? But you know, I would say I didn't feel like I was ready because a nigga was scared, really, you know, scared of leaving everything behind. When she moved here and I came to visit or I ain't come to visit, I came to bring all the furniture and all of our stuff, you know. So when I left and I saw how my daughter reacted, nah, I was like, yeah, fuck that city, I'm going, I'm coming. You know what I'm saying, I'm coming, you know what I'm saying. So, for real, I moved, I moved, we moved Because she wanted to get away from Everything that that had me out in the street all the time.
Monte' Corleone:She wanted to get away from that, you know, and all the bullshit in St Louis, you know, like, like bruh said, love the city, but you just gotta, you gotta get away. I don't I, for real, in St Louis, you know, like, like Bruss said, love the city, but it's, you just got to, you got to get away. I don't I, for real, believe that anybody can prosper as long as they get out of their element. You know what I'm saying. So she decided to get us out of our element, which got me to grabbing my trophies. You know what I'm saying. So we, we moved because of me, but I made a extra conscious effort to hurry up and get back here because of my family, though that's what's up, though, bro, that's what's up.
Ant:It's not nearly I, I think. I think I moved definitely for new beginnings. I think that's what I, that's what the original intent was right New opportunities. My best friend moved down here. He was doing well, so I was like why not? Yeah, nigga, he was doing good bro. I ain't gonna say, was doing good.
Uniq:I think you still are doing well, but I'm saying like from perspective I'm talking about, though honestly think about that time period, no.
Ant:I mean mentally and emotionally, nah. But hey, and that's the deeper conversation. Right, right, right. What do we qualify as doing? All right, you know what I mean Because, like I said, coming from where we come from, financials is really what you think about. You're like, all right, the nigga got some money in his pocket. He doing all right, right, that's all that really matters. Right, right, that's all that really matters. But then, when you get down to the skinny of it, you know, there's layers to it.
Ant:Yeah, you know what I mean. I mean because money matters. It gives you access to certain things, but it can't be the standard pillar.
Ant:You know what I'm saying, what you got going on, it come with baggage. Everything come with baggage. I think that's. That's the kind of the thing with life, right? What are you willing to sacrifice for the next thing? What are you willing to put away for the next thing, which is what moved me down here? Because I had a decent job, right, I was set up in corporate America. They wanted me to continue moving forward with their company, but I saw other opportunities. You know what I mean. I saw the chance to be able to build with my boy, to be able to move to a new state, to get away from the cold.
Ant:Let's talk about that, because, nigga, I hate cold weather, fam. And nigga, it's like 80 degrees outside. It's like 80 degrees outside, bro, and it's like in St Louis right now. Somebody check the weather. What does it feel like there, bro? It's probably like 40-something. So for me it's like comfort, you know. I mean like comfort, new opportunities, and I knew, for myself at least what, for what I was trying to do. I was a big fish in a little pond, so I ain't had the amount of opportunities that I needed to be able to put myself where I needed to go.
Uniq:So, coming, down here, you know let me spin a block real quick on what you something that you said, yeah, like my thing was when you came down here is I knew the position you was in and the job you had back home in St Louis, so I didn't want you to feel like down to yourself because the transition wasn't happening as smooth as you like. You know what I'm saying. So my job for when you transition is I just want, want to just be supportive, keep uplifting you. You know what I'm saying because I know how difficult it can be, especially with the other things you were dealing with.
Ant:You know I'm saying on top of that, so that was my job, man, what I felt in my mind I needed to do to help you with your transition when you came down here I think that's important, like even when we talk about moving family down here and talk about people relocating, I think there is a sense of responsibility that also needs to be talked about, because with that, I think you stepping up to the plate, making sure niggas was fed and nigga had a vehicle to be able to go to job interviews or pull up at the gig and stuff, that amount of support is what's necessary for people to succeed and take that next step.
Ant:And like, sometimes we want people to just kind of jump and like sink or swim, nigga, you know what I'm saying. Sink or swim, like you figure it out. But we forget that it do take a little bit of support, not always financially right, it's not always handing somebody some money, but it's maybe putting them in position right, putting a notebook in front of them and telling them to write down their thoughts on some shit. Like I'm.
Monte' Corleone:You know, I did come down here without a job yeah, bro, that's what I'm saying. Like you, you get down here, I ain't got shit I'm tripping like but that, but that's, that's what I mean.
Ant:We came a long fucking way a long way, bro, and it ain't even been that long, but it's been less than five years, yeah but I mean I, I always knew I was capable, you know, I always knew that.
Monte' Corleone:So, like my mom always gave me this, saying that kept me going to look for jobs, she was like, hey, as long as you're looking for a job, a job is looking for you. Like it's out there, you know. So I've never stopped looking for something. You know better.
Ant:So but I think it, bro, and I think that's the thing like so when I, when I talk about like home, for me it's always bittersweet because I do miss the familiarity of home right, like knowing where schools is at certain, you know which fast food joints to hit and which ones not to hit because this one trash this one decent right, you know what lights to skip, you know what back roads connect to other back roads and shit. It's just little shit about navigating life that I miss about home. But I also think, as a young black professional, ain't nothing really there for me unless I go back, and for me I feel like for a lot of people to succeed, you got to kind of go get a taste of something else, broaden your horizon on some shit, and then you could come back to the city and do some shit if you want to do some yeah, but do you think you would go back?
Ant:I think I would. I was thinking about that shit the other day. I'm glad you asked me. Appreciate you? So no, but I legitimately, because one of the first big ideas I ever had growing up was to open a performing art school.
Ant:Right, like, because for me I didn't take advantage of that shit growing up and I think it was because it wasn't marketed well to me. It didn't look like it was for little black kids, it didn't like it was for people that looked like me and acted like me. Right, so I I wasn't trying to take advantage of it. So what I would want to do is provide an opportunity for some, for the kids in the city that was like me, that got talent, that got promise. But you need somebody to help put you in position, you need people to help highlight opportunities for you, and I think that I would definitely go back to do that right, so I definitely would. Would I go back to live? That's maybe in the summer, maybe I'll go back and have like a summer crib or some shit, but like Would you though, bro Summertime, so you said some shit.
Ant:the other day, bro, you got to experience our hometown as an adult, with money. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. We was young, struggling. We wasn't able to experience the city like we should have been able to experience it.
Monte' Corleone:So, now that I've been back a couple times, you back a couple times, you still like nah, no, absolutely not, because there's nothing there, ain't nothing there, if you got some money.
Uniq:I'm legit trying to wrap my head around what, regardless of the money, like what I'm going to do.
Monte' Corleone:Ain't nothing to do.
Ant:Y'all got to remember, bro. We've been gone for a hot minute, bro. They done built soccer stadiums, they bringing the XFL to St Louis. It's so much the Jason Tatum just talking about he putting like what was it? A $200 million project and bringing the WNBA. The city is actually going up. It's a lot of rest, it's a lot of nightlife.
Uniq:It's a lot of stuff that's building. So, I look at it.
Ant:But for a summer. I would definitely go there For a summer bro. Yeah, st Louis be dope for Pockets of time, that's summer hot.
Uniq:You know what I'm saying.
Ant:That's summer hot, depending on where you go.
Monte' Corleone:Well, nah, nah. I was about to say, because they've already Proven that the crime has went down. We're no, we're no longer the number one In crime or murder rate In St Louis. So they going down on that, you know.
Ant:But it's also a lot of politicians they put into office.
Monte' Corleone:It's like and I can't remember her name, like a lot of black politicians as well.
Ant:Exactly A lot of black politicians. You're absolutely right that they put into office and good and bad. Right, there's people making decisions on both sides, some people you like, eh Right. But I feel like the city definitely going up. But I do get what you're saying. Is it worth it to go back because of the success we've seen here? No, not necessarily, but I would if I was able to go monopolize that success and bring it to the city.
Monte' Corleone:Yeah, for sure you know what I'm saying so.
Ant:I definitely would in that case.
Monte' Corleone:Yeah, because, honestly see, I don't even want to give nobody no ideas, but I don't really care. I don't really care, I don't really care if they do this or not but what? I'm gonna steal it anyway bro, they gonna steal it either before or after. I say this it don't, it don't even matter during hey, they can do it, but hey they.
Monte' Corleone:It ain't gonna be the way that I'm gonna do it. You know what I'm saying. So what I what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna go get one of them people that is cooking the good rice there and I'm gonna talk to them and say, hey, let go get one of them, people that is cooking the good rice there, and I'm going to talk to them and say, hey, let me get one of your people from the kitchen. They help us open this place. I'll break you off. You know what I'm saying. Like, we make this a joint venture.
Uniq:What you going to call it. What you going to call it.
Monte' Corleone:I'm going to call it whatever the fuck they want to call it. I want the rice here, Like. You know what I'm saying. Then we can branch off and do other things. You know what I'm saying? Because the rice in St Louis, bro, that's all I want. That's all I want, bro, the rice in St Louis. Nobody makes it like St Louis dog. I don't really care about the pizza, for real.
Uniq:We standing on that we standing on that. Nobody making rice like St Louis.
Monte' Corleone:Nobody, bro.
Ant:I stamped and approved, bro, Like nobody making rice like St Louis, hey, people have tried it here, bro People, because whatever they got down here and shout out to all my Houston natives because I rock with y'all, but y'all got terrible food recommendations Timmy Chan's or Jimmy.
Uniq:Tan's or whatever the hell that is.
Ant:I get that y'all like that fried rice. Congratulations.
Monte' Corleone:That I like that fried rice Congratulations. That's nice, but it ain't got nothing. Hold on, I don't mean to cut you off, but you St Louis eatery motherfuckers, that shit is trash bro, everybody will be coming down and trying to redo it.
Uniq:That shit is trash bro, I'm sorry Y'all be burning the rice. I'm sorry.
Monte' Corleone:There's some people that say they got some cool ones in Dallas and shit like that. They got some cool ones in Dallas and shit like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, Nah, bro, Y'all blew that bro. I stood in line for like two and a half three hours, bro, for that bullshit, and then I gave y'all another chance. I gave y'all another chance. I was like oh, we got a brick and mortar spot. Y'all brought my shit out. It still tastes the same, but like nah, y'all watch like from.
Ant:For what I know, bro, them, them asian cats. Be back there with the walk. They be back there with a big walk. I don't know what it is now, but you niggas on this hibachi grill trying to do the fried rice yeah, no but it ain't the same, y'all burning it. I think y'all burning the oil and y'all not taking care of it I don't know what's happening, but y'all need to reassess some stuff, bro, for real I can't do it I can't do it and hold on.
Monte' Corleone:Disclaimer, disclaimer. I ain't trying to down y'all, but that shit wasn't cool.
Ant:You know what I'm saying it's just bro, I feel like I've had somebody Make it.
Uniq:These niggas feel as hurt these niggas feel as hurt.
Monte' Corleone:I don't wanna get sued nigga, I ain't want to get sued.
Ant:Nigga, hey, bro, because I'm with all the shit, bro, because three hours you go somewhere and you tell somebody you want a burger.
Uniq:Y'all niggas told me they gave y'all the shavings. It tasted like the skillet.
Ant:It tasted like the back of the grill nigga, yeah, yeah yeah. Like a nigga, was cleaning that mug and threw it in a bowl.
Monte' Corleone:Let me tell you. So I stood there and watched this shit. They had them little griddle, them big ass griddles that you get from walmart the big ones, just the flat griddle cooking a big ass thing of rice bruh nigga dumped a tote of rice and this is what they did dog, like they used that big ass bucket Of white rice that they probably boiled. Nigga, they probably don't do that shit At the regular restaurant, cause the rice don't taste Like it been boiled bruh, but it's also be firm, like you gotta, but also bruh.
Ant:It be too soft you also have to use like Old rice. People be cooking fresh rice To try to do it.
Monte' Corleone:You're supposed to use Day old, two day old rice. We know.
Uniq:You see what I'm saying.
Monte' Corleone:Because the rice is not. It's not mushy, but it ain't hard, it's firm.
Ant:It's not like crunchy, but it's firm.
Uniq:To put it short, st Louis eatery needs to do better.
Monte' Corleone:Yeah, for sure.
Ant:Bro, I stood in line for three hours bro Bro said he want his time back For some trashy bro, like nah bro, that's like standing in line For some trash shit, bro.
Monte' Corleone:Like nah, bro, like that's standing, that's like standing in line For some Jordans and they come out and give you some Vans.
Ant:Nigga wait a minute, nah. First of all, niggas die over. J's Like alright.
Monte' Corleone:Y'all remember them, them 13, gamma 13's. Oh, they was Tearing them all up over them.
Ant:Nigga them and them uh, them Concords, nigga them uh nigga that was niggas was bruh Nigga was in line getting robbed, bro.
Uniq:You remember they was working for Locker In line getting robbed for their ticket. Nigga, they had to work at for Locker they tried to rob niggas for the flu games.
Ant:That's crazy. And they coming back out, shout out to Jordan, they riding in the ground station For the polo boots Shout out to Jordan. Shout out brother.
Monte' Corleone:Hey man I fuck with. I fuck with Jordan. He owns, I think like A lot of prisons man it ain't my fault. Your ass did what you did To get that.
Uniq:I saw a post, they said. Somebody said they look like a K-Corso Black ass. I saw a post, they said. Somebody said that the little head look like a Cade Corso.
Monte' Corleone:Black ass. Damn.
Ant:Damn that nigga eyes, bro. His eyes do be like red and bloodshot and shit.
Monte' Corleone:Well, all right, hold on Rewind then.
Ant:Shout out to Jordan's shoes. Shout out to the Nike department that nigga Jordan ain't looked at a design for a shoe in 40 years. Yeah, nah.
Monte' Corleone:Bruh, he owned like 4 through like 14 or some shit like this. I mean 1 through 14. Some goofy ass shit like that. I'll be rocking with that shit because some of the retros are coming back out now, but I feel like so this is my opinion, since we on this shit, I feel like it's not Jordan that people rock with.
Ant:I think they do rock with him as people who like basketball. I think that shit's way bigger than that. It's culture tied around that shit. Because nigga Fresh Pinch was wearing that shit to HBCU. We tie that shit to AI, nigga yeah bro, we tie that shit to so many other things, yeah, bro. So it's bigger than just him. You know what I'm saying. I think that symbol became yeah for the whole culture.
Monte' Corleone:But it was him Because he actually wore those shoes In the game. So when he actually put those shoes that he was wearing in the game out, niggas was rocking them motherfuckers, because he was throwing 60 up on motherfuckers in the game bro man, look, you say 60.
Uniq:You remember that came out. That was 60 pluses.
Monte' Corleone:Yeah, them shits was terrible.
Ant:Them shit was terrible, going fives.
Monte' Corleone:Man, it was terrible, nigga.
Ant:Nah, but bye y'all. So the thing is right. I wanted to make sure that we talked about us more than anything, because a lot of times we get on these podcasts, niggas be arguing over relationships. Be, arguing over fuck shit and I wanted to make sure we talked about some shit that's relatable. You know what I'm saying? I had a motherfucker Nigga even the other day. Y'all know some shit that's hometown. That fuck with me that I be trying to get other places that be trash when Toasted ravioli.
Ant:Nigga. I saw some fried ravioli on somebody's menu the other day. I was like, ooh, that shit might be fine Trash, nigga. It was legitimately. They just fried the ravioli. They didn't do anything special with it, nigga, they just fried that bitch.
Uniq:I was like nah, hold on, I'm. Was it like some fried Boiled chip R&D?
Ant:I want you to think about a boiled R&D, rinse off the sauce, right, and then just fry that bitch. Don't season it, just fry that bitch. You tell me no, bro, but that's what I'm saying. You get set up. I ain't gonna lie. I rock with Houston. It's some good food.
Monte' Corleone:Rest in peace to the turkey leg hurt Turkey leg hurt.
Ant:It was some place on DoorDash I had to show it to you, I'm just saying it was some little. It might have been one of them fusion spots. You know they be doing some bullshit, yeah. What was I talking about, though, nigga? It was some shit.
Uniq:Talking about the food Food.
Monte' Corleone:You said ravioli.
Uniq:Something about the Something after that, before that, before after. Well, fuck it, we can talk about this right here. I ain't going to lie. How do you feel you need to approach your homie, your brother, when you need to hold them accountable? What do you think the best method? You know what?
Ant:I'm saying to approach them. I think it depends on the person. I think that. So it's just like any other situation, right? So it's just like kids. It's just like any other situation, right? So it's just like kids. It's just like a job, right?
Ant:If you talking to somebody that you are used to spending time around, you should be familiar with the way that they receive information, right? So is it better to talk to them on the phone? Is it better to sit them down in person? Is it better to write that shit down? Is it better to like run through it and practice that shit in your head so you don't say no dumb shit. Like you got to figure out the best way to come to them. And I'll give y'all an example Quinn, you very big on face-to-face conversations, so I know if I need to hold you accountable, if there's a serious conversation we need to have, it's got to be face-to-face.
Ant:I can't really call you over the phone or try to do no FaceTime shit. It's not going to land. I gotta talk to you when you're sitting right next to me or right in front of me. So like I know that, based on Just our history, right, just the way we've experienced shit with each other. So I feel like it's gonna change based on who that person is and then what they being held accountable on. You know what I'm saying. So it's different. If you like, damn nigga. You said you supposed to go work out, go to the fucking gym, versus. Hey, bro, you owe me 50 bucks. You said you was going to pay me last week. You know what I'm saying. Like it's a different conversation.
Monte' Corleone:Yeah, you should approach it as being as honest in yourself as possible. Don't try to sugarcoat shit because that's going to misconstrue the message. Because that's going to misconstrue the message and like I'm going to break it down as okay, my brother, I feel like I don't have to filter how I'm saying shit because, at the end of the day, you still going to be my brother, so I shouldn't have to change no type of way how I talk or whatever. Because if you get offended about how I'm presenting or expressing how I feel about the situation, then that sound like a you problem, because y'all, because you know me, you know what I'm saying.
Ant:So it's based on relationship.
Monte' Corleone:Because, as a friend, as a friend, me being that way might come off real aggressive and he might want to fight me.
Ant:He might want to be like nigga, who you talking to like that. You know what I'm saying Because your brother grew up with you. Yeah, y'all seen each other go through those situations. Yeah, yeah, y'all seen each other go through those situations.
Monte' Corleone:Yeah, so because it's happened before. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you know what I'm saying when my brother was like damn nigga, you changed. But I was like nigga, I ain't never changed. You changed. You know what I'm saying, and that's what made me have to project that way. You know what I'm saying. Project that way, you know I'm saying so, but for a friend it is just like you know you.
Monte' Corleone:You don't approach it the same way now as a spouse, though that's a good, that's a good you have to walk on eggshells about how you approach things, because you don't approach it like how you would your brother or your friend, because you got to keep it more with love. You know what I'm saying? Like yeah, you might be frustrated like a motherfucker, but you're gonna be like god damn it, hey you just gotta be soft.
Uniq:You know what I'm saying? Your delivery has to be softer. Yep, yep, um. So I guess I answer my own question slash statement.
Uniq:It's like I feel like you have to take into account who they are to you, how you do it and where you do it. Yeah, reason say I say that. I give, I guess, a little bit of context or example. Is like, if you're talking to your best friend, your brother, you know what I'm saying, I'm not going to address him in front of everybody, even if you know what I'm saying. Another friend, right, I'm going to put him to the side, you know what I'm saying. And then also, even if he's in front of his spouse or his girl, something like that, I'm not going to do it in front of her either. I don't want to. You know what I'm saying, because I don't want him To potentially, as a man, feel like I'm addressing him in a certain way In front of his lady. Now, his manhood might feel like. He might feel like his manhood is in question. You know what I'm saying, because you're doing this in front of my girl.
Monte' Corleone:I feel disrespected.
Uniq:Yeah. So that's why I feel like if you're addressing your brother, your partner, you know what I'm saying. You got to take this into account when you're doing that. And y'all know me, I be trying to be empathetic the way I deliver stuff. I feel like I need to just say it and also like I need to just say it, and and also, Like I said, you gotta take into account who you are to that person. They know you, they know how you deliver things, you know what I'm saying. They know it's not no ill intent, no malicious intent Behind you On what you're saying. Yep, in spite of the delivery.
Ant:I don't disagree with that. I think I think the difference is Just to bring both of what y'all said together. From my perspective, right, I think the difference is when you have family that you grow up with, you're kind of forced into those uncomfortable conversations early on, and with your friend, you end up dodging it most of the time, right, and I think that the level that you try to unlock is on the other side of that uncomfortable conversation, because with your brothers, your parents sat y'all down or put y'all in a t-shirt together and was like y'all gonna hug until y'all figure it out. You know what I'm saying. You had to go through that discomfort early on, so y'all got comfortable with the discomfort. You know what I'm saying. I think that with a lot of friendships or adult relationships, we don't we avoid conflict instead of like managingage it, if that makes sense.
Uniq:I feel like there's only one person In this room that can really Fully Answer that question, that aspect or perspective. Monte, cause you have Blood brothers, so how was? That With your Brothers, your blood brothers, and conflict Resolution.
Monte' Corleone:So you mean between me and them.
Ant:I mean even them and each other like the brothers though, yeah, each other.
Monte' Corleone:It really never really been no challenging situations with them, because I'm like 11 years older than them and they're like two years apart. And it's odd because my dad is like my little brother, my first little brother. My second little brother is like me, he's more of a recluse, he don't talk that much, he just be chilling. But my other brother, I don't don't know, he just like my dad. It's like it's weird. They I don't know what to call it but like they just be trying shit you know what I'm saying just doing shit unconsciously, bro. So but my, my little brother kind of calmed that down. But it really wasn't no conflict between me and them or really between them. We all close and I was that brother who I was in all type of shit.
Monte' Corleone:So when I got into shit I would call and talk to my pops. My pops would put them on the phone. I'd be talking to them from jail, like you don't never want to be here, bro, you don't never want to do this, you don't never want to do that. So my little brother, to this day, he said bro, I remember that shit bro. He said I remember you was on that phone, you was talking to me from jail and none of them ever been to jail before. You know what I'm saying. That's all they needed. Yep, but I do have a sister now. My sister saw the type of dude that I was and she looked up to it, so the type of shit I was doing. I think she wanted to try it and I think she I think she started dating people that that was similar to how I was bro and, yeah, that just ain't work out.
Uniq:Now she's uh, yeah, now she's LGBTQ man hey man no
Monte' Corleone:not at all, not at all. I love my sister. Bro Like Just stay in your lane, please, and to be honest, she's the one who Was the key to having me be around those type of people I ain't even gonna say those type of people, lgbtq type of people. You know what I'm saying. So being around my sister Makes me type of people. You know what I'm saying. So being around my sister makes me comfortable with being around those type of people. You know what I'm saying, so I'm.
Ant:It's about exposure, bro, and I mean that's the thing about this whole situation and shout out to the LGBTQIA plus community. But when you talk about the exposure to some of those situations, when you talk about some of those situations, uh, damn that, it's about familiarity, nigga, nigga. First of all.
Uniq:I almost stumbled through that. I said LGBTQIA+.
Ant:Okay, there we go, made it, I made it through. Alright, we good, hey. But hey, hey look, I got some folks I rocks with. That's part of the community, you know.
Monte' Corleone:Yeah, me too, but I'm, I'm gonna say For me, just because I'm okay with it. I'm not gonna say that Everybody has to be okay with it. You know what I'm saying? You are who you are, yeah you know, and I know I know people that don't run with it. You know.
Uniq:And so I'm not going to try to change their mind you know.
Monte' Corleone:But what I do, is y'all not going to say shit about my sister? You know what I'm saying. That's where I'm at with it, you know what I'm saying I'm like you know, if we was having a function or something like nah, ain't no shit, ain't no motherfucker coming up here, yes, she is, yes, she is. If she's here, yes, she is, or I ain't coming, or me, yeah, I know, I know her though. Yeah, yeah, I know that. But I'm saying like if it was somebody saying that bro, yes, she is.
Uniq:Because it's basically saying you know, that's the exception.
Monte' Corleone:Yeah and yeah because you know, if I say that all my sister here and y'all just you know it was some function that they was like nah, she can't come here.
Uniq:All right, you know, I'm not coming.
Monte' Corleone:You know, my wife ain't coming, the kids ain't coming, ain't no part of my house all coming.
Uniq:You know what I'm saying? I found out somebody else we know dibbling that.
Ant:I'm not surprised, bro. It's a very popular choice nowadays. Oh, that makes sense to me. What?
Monte' Corleone:noise is that, oh yeah, wow, that makes sense. That's crazy, well, no it ain't Again.
Ant:That makes Complete sense to me, bro. Yeah, but that's what I'm saying. It's like a I don't necessarily. Nevermind, I ain't looking to be Like hey bro, everybody, everybody's Entitled to make their own opinions. You know what I mean Politically, religiously and sexually. Do what you Do what you opinions. Politically, religiously and sexually. Do what you feel.
Monte' Corleone:What y'all think about the election. My God, Big Trump.
Uniq:My.
Monte' Corleone:God.
Ant:We already knew. That's my thing. She took over three months before the election. Who would have won in that situation? Most of the time, like there's, not many people I know. So, like even the hope that you had Is kind of slim. You know what I'm saying, nah it's not that, bro.
Monte' Corleone:The reason why she lost Is because of one reason.
Ant:Her participation in the Palestine War.
Uniq:One reason only.
Monte' Corleone:There are too many individuals that think a female cannot run this country.
Ant:I mean absolutely.
Monte' Corleone:That is what swayed the election. There's too many black males, Hispanic males, white males that believe.
Ant:Black men and women actually were the two highest percentages that voted for her. I think black men was at like 78%, though that's high as hell bro, but some I feel you, you know what I'm saying.
Monte' Corleone:And some helped Trump.
Ant:Yeah, yeah, yeah I mean, but there's always a pocket of, like, black Republicans.
Monte' Corleone:You know, it's always.
Ant:But no niggas. I mean bro, so so look, but no niggas. I mean bruh, it's a difference. It's a difference, but, bruh, you gotta remember what you vote for too, cuz most people in the first election, trump was for the business owners, so it didn't matter what color you was. A lot of business owners was like yeah nigga, you see the bread.
Uniq:He making sure niggas get you see the moves he doing now, though you don't think that's what he about now.
Ant:I think so. That's the problem, though it's a, it's a, it's two business. Yeah, it's brackets, it's not. It's not necessarily colors, it's paint, it's what you make.
Uniq:It's how much money you got. But look, this shit finna start looking like GTA boy.
Monte' Corleone:Look, but I wasn't able to vote because my shit was in transition. I would have voted, but the thing is I just hope that bruh don't be like. I hope he don't be no asshole. Still, I hope he actually come out and be a president, not with the antics and shit like that.
Ant:He already with the antics. That's what I'm saying. It's a lot of shit, but, bro, have you heard about all the shit that's happening? Kids getting texts from school, bomb threats, telling black people they finna pick them up and take them to cotton fields? It's all shit already happening because people feel comfortable with his leadership and I think that was the thing. It was never about Trump himself, it was about the people that follow him and their level of comfort with racist shit. Because of the rhetoric, it don't always be racist people, it be trolls saying and doing racist shit To get a reaction out of people.
Monte' Corleone:I ain't tell y'all about the shit that happened to me today.
Uniq:So mind I tell you, are you looking at the people who voted for Trump that are black, as a disgrace or like?
Monte' Corleone:No, I was saying, I was saying that there were Actual, like, not people like us but Like the niggas. You know what I'm saying?
Uniq:My homeboys, he just said it like it's an organization. It is.
Ant:The N-I-G-A-S. It is, it's an N-I-G-A-S, it is, it's an acronym, cause it's the National. Now look, now look. International nigga.
Monte' Corleone:I'm a part of the nigga association.
Ant:The nigga association Yo.
Monte' Corleone:I'm a part of the niggas, I'm a nigga, I'm a nigga. Nah, I'm just bullshitting, nah, thatitting. No, I'm just saying it's people like, it's people like us, bro, like that that voted for trump, you know, I'm saying that that are on the fence about shit, you know, um, but I don't think, I don't think it's a disgrace, bro, because they, they want something different than what they've been given. Bro, my dad told me a long time ago. He said man, it's always like this. It looked like the Republicans be fucking shit up, and this was when Bush was in office. He said the Republicans always fucking shit up, and then the Democrats make shit better. But now it seems like it's reversed. It seems like that the Democratic Party is some straight bitches. They soft, so they don't be going hard for candidates and shit like this. The Republican Party be going in.
Ant:But that's what they said, with a lot of situations, because a lot of cats who identify as Democrat, right. But there's a lot of these other bills that are being passed about what they're teaching kids in school and the whole thing about sex changes and stuff, because that's being pushed by a lot of Democratic parties. People are like what? I don't agree with that. So damn, am I a Republican. Now I got to vote Republican because I don't agree with that. So damn, am I a Republican? Like now, I got to vote Republican because I don't agree with the Democrats. Not that they necessarily identify with one side or the other.
Monte' Corleone:But see, what people don't realize is see they get caught on words and shit in a campaign that's shit to catch the LGBTQ community so that they can vote for them. That's why they doing it they not doing it just because half of the shit probably ain't going to get passed anyway. It's just like with Trump oh, I'm going to get rid of abortions and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah Made all these motherfuckers that was actually raping motherfuckers and getting motherfuckers pregnant vote for him. But at the same time, when he got in office, he was like yeah, we're going to leave that up to the state. So people don't really know what their plan is, because it's a campaign.
Ant:There's too many other branches of government and we've been on this shit for too long, but I feel like people forget. They give the president too much motherfucking credit. There's too much other shit going on in the world. You know what I'm saying. What else are you paying attention to?
Ant:type shit so and that's something that's something I want to talk to y'all about too. Like, as we get into like, let's say, neighborhoods and shit right, we talked about like when niggas talk about owning their house that's when you feel like you'll be more a part of your neighborhood and more willing to like contribute to shit right, what you feel like you'll contribute, though, like you feel like you'll be a neighborhood handyman like you know, I'm saying like fuck would you be, would you? Would you go around helping people mow their lawns?
Ant:and working on cars and some shit like. But what would you do for your community what you feel like you will bring to you?
Monte' Corleone:so it like look, the other day it was real windy.
Monte' Corleone:I don't know who trash blew all the way over in my shit and all that motherfucking street and shit immediately but look, I would have if, if this was my home and this was a street that I gave a fuck about, I would have went, picked that shit up, because I looked at it for like two days and I ain't gonna pick it up. I was just sitting outside like damn, that's just there. And I walked to the mailbox one day. It was like I should pick it up. I was just sitting outside like damn, that shit's still there. And I walked to the mailbox one day and was like I should pick that up and I walked past it. So I would contribute, like that type of thing. You know, and I look out for kids and shit like that. You know what I mean. I don't know what I would do for them because I don't necessarily be wanting to talk to people's kids nowadays. You know what I'm saying. Why is that.
Monte' Corleone:Because, bro, like now, if you talking to somebody's kid, you a pedophile or something like that, and it's like I ain't like for real. For real, I've been like shit. I do got a big ass bag of candy in the crib. Y'all want some candy type shit. Bro, I've been like shit. I do got a big ass bag of candy in the crib. Y'all want some candy type shit.
Ant:I was being serious. You know what I'm saying. It's from Halloween. You know what I'm saying Like shit. I didn't.
Monte' Corleone:I just wanted to give them some shit. Y'all want some candy.
Uniq:Penny wise.
Monte' Corleone:No, like my boy Georgie. But hey, I don't want my kids to eat all this shit. Y'all want some candy, like you know, but it's I don't know. Man, you know, but I'm not, I'm not mowing no grass for nobody for free. No, that's not happening. And and I and it's the thing, I can't do stuff like that because you can't be, no, you can't be no handyman nowadays.
Monte' Corleone:Motherfucking lady sitting there with a motherfucking skirt on under her robe and shit you know what I'm saying with no top on Talking about yeah, screw that in for me, baby.
Ant:No, no, sir, it's getting kinky nowadays. Y'all see the video on social media with that old lady eating the fruit from the chef. The chef was sitting there. Like y'all know these little kinky nowadays. Y'all see the video on social media with that old lady eating the fruit from the chef. The chef was sitting there. Like y'all know these little kinky chefs and they be dripping honey on their ass and shit with grapes and shit. Y'all ain't never seen this shit. Nah, I seen. Like I'm the creep, all right. Well, yeah, it sounds like work of these little parties. They be doing these like ladies nights and ladies parties and shit. Right, and bro, it had this old lady doing some just nasty stuff. Bro, cass was like bro, what happened to the grandmas that used to be in the kitchen, barely left the house making food, why she out here getting sex grapes from the chef? Bro, what's happening?
Monte' Corleone:Because they glamors now.
Uniq:That's something like my type of niche.
Monte' Corleone:Nah, you go right ahead brother, nah, I'm flicked. Oh yeah, you done, done, nah. So I guess what I want to do. Y'all already know what I do.
Uniq:So I'm doing it now. I'm literally editing the pictures as we speak. Neighborhood barber.
Monte' Corleone:You know, like, like I just want to, I mean, but you're in that setting, yeah too, so you're able to do that, and that's, that's good even dudes in the neighborhood.
Uniq:Like I'm saying, it's a guy that stays, uh, right across the street from me, I pay him to cut my grass. Um, you know I'm saying I overpay him and, um, just trying to give him a hustle. You know I'm saying I overpay him and Just trying to give him A hustle. You know what I'm saying? I seen him Cutting somebody else grass, so I pulled up on him Like hey, you cut grass. And he was like, yes, sir, you know what I'm saying. He was like and that made me feel, oh boy, like that made me feel. That made me feel, hello, yes, sir.
Monte' Corleone:Now what I would do. Um, when I get my cleaning company off the ground, I would offer um, like extra cheap cleaning services for people, like once or twice a week or some shit like that. You know, not twice a week, I said once or twice a week, shit once or twice like every two weeks or a month or something like that. Yeah, that'd be cool Because you know people. Hey, damn, but that'd be crazy. I don't want to send my people in other people's houses and shit to be cleaning.
Ant:But that's the thing, bro. I feel like it involves a certain amount of risk. You just got to have certain shit set up right, like there should be check-ins. There should be certain amount of risk. You just got to have certain shit set up right, like there should be check-ins. There should be certain stuff going on Because, like, if a motherfucker don't, like if the cleaning was supposed to happen at 5 o'clock, the motherfucker ain't checked in by 5.45, I would send the police over there, like you know what I'm saying. Like immediately.
Monte' Corleone:No, I ain't talking about nothing like that.
Ant:Man, I think Filthy ass, ass, Bro, that shit needs to. That shit is almost like I don't know. I like seeing that shit, but I don't.
Monte' Corleone:Yeah, like when my mom be cleaning up the shits and shit, Like some hoarder shit.
Ant:Yeah, Like that shit be like oh, bitch, it's a cockroach and then, but it be exciting. Then you see the bitch clean the shit up. After the fact you be like all right, all right. That shit look cool, I fuck with it so.
Monte' Corleone:so what's something about y'all that you just don't like? Like, what's your pet peeve?
Uniq:About myself.
Ant:Anything. I got a laundry list of shit. Yeah, this nigga Go ahead, boy Go ahead, give me three, because you do. I got a motherfucking laundry list.
Ant:But I also where I'm at with this shit. Right, I don't like a lot of shit because of the environments I've been a part of, so like I can't remember which one of these niggas I was telling this shit to last night. But, like with my motherfucking wife, my wife grew up around kids. She's been around kids her whole life. Her siblings got kids and shit. She's always been an auntie. She worked at a motherfucking daycare before, but since she's been with me we don't be around kids as often. She got three years of quiet environment. You know what I'm saying.
Ant:Now, when she around loud kids again, it's like damn, this is some shit I got to get used to, because I'm like damn, I'm not used to being around this shit no more. And I feel like that's kind of how I am, like I didn't got into certain situations, like I don't fuck with loud noises, but I feel like it's because I grew up in a situation where it was always around some loud shit. So now I didn't deal with loud ass, motherfucking, abrupt noises, that shit. Fuck me up, man. That might be because I'm old too, nigga old.
Uniq:Nigga get scared out of his sleep. What you still know there, Monte.
Monte' Corleone:Man Just thinking of some shit that I just don't like. Like. For me it's paying attention dog, like lately Just got in a fucking accident Cause a nigga wasn't paying attention. Be yelling at my kids Cause they ain't paying attention. You talking to my wife and she ain't paying attention. Like god damn Ain't nobody paying attention.
Uniq:You're talking to my wife and she ain't paying attention Like goddamn.
Monte' Corleone:Ain't nobody paying attention? Nobody, nobody, but you. Huh. Bruh like I'm head on a swivel. Ain't nobody doing this? I guess not. They looking straight tunnel vision. I don't see nothing else. That's one of my pet peeves, bruh, like I hate when people ain't paying attention.
Uniq:Dog Like I feel like me and your pet peeves is one and the same pretty much is. You know, mine is paying attention to detail, but what I was getting ready to say is I hate repeating myself after I've given clear instruction For real, like I had a. This is some barber shit. So I had a client yesterday. Long story short. I clearly told her to book any slot and I'll change it to 2 pm. She texts back, says I don't see any slots until next week. Ma'am. I said book any slot, doesn't matter what day, any slot, and I would change it to 2 pm. It was clear. I didn't say it over the phone, you read it Like. So that irritated me On top of the things that she did. Well, that's my thing. If I feel like I've given you clear instruction and you still can't comprehend it, that's a something that's a pet peeve that I don't like, bro yeah, I do that at work.
Monte' Corleone:I created a, a standard operating procedure, sop, and they didn't follow it. They did not follow it. How you get it wrong? It say it right. Did you read it? No, okay, that's yeah.
Uniq:Man, look, let me ask this real quick. We can probably this probably shifted a little bit and we can probably end it off this. Y'all both kind of told me this as far as dating and relationships and what you looked for, at what point you said you didn't go off, looks for it. Right, that wasn't like the top thing you were looking for anymore. Right, all right. But if you feel like this, have you ever felt when you were with a woman, even though that's what you wasn't looking for, you didn't feel the physical attraction.
Monte' Corleone:No, yes, but it depends on who it was but that's what I'm saying.
Uniq:If that's not what you're looking for, but you're not feeling the physical attraction, are you going to stay in and just keep going? Hell?
Monte' Corleone:nah. So on that journey to find someone, I dated a lot. But some people I dated, I mean I ain't going to count. I dated this one chick, you know her teeth was all over the place. I just couldn't get with it, bro. I couldn't get with it, hey, and she was real, look, she was real top heavy, but that was it I'm talking about straight down. Oh no, I couldn't get with it bro.
Uniq:No.
Monte' Corleone:But she was so nice, bro, she was cool, had a nice personality. I just couldn't get with it. I couldn't get with it, bro, like I wanted what I wanted. You know what I mean, and I'm sorry for all you Pretty fine chicks out there. Y'all need to fix your attitude, like that's what I used to go for, but I used to go for Model type. I wanna be a model type, you know what I'm saying. So I wanna be a baddie, but that's what I'm saying. So I want to be a baddie, but that's what I'm saying, though. City girl type shit.
Uniq:But look, that's what I'm saying, though, like that's just not what you're going for, right, yeah, but yet you were still attracted to her. Yeah, you were still physically attracted to her somewhat, right, yeah. So, but I'm saying, if you don't feel that any like, you don't even feel that physical attraction, even though she isn't what you necessarily go for, right, already, right, and you give it a chance, but the physical attraction isn't there.
Ant:Nah, because I feel like this is how I really feel you have to gauge your emotional state, because there are a lot of people who learn to love somebody's physical stature. I don't know how long that takes. That might be a while, but what?
Ant:I'm saying is I hear a lot of especially older folks say that you lose your looks. Think about all the situations with people who are ex-military or firefighters and shit, where they get injured or fucked up, their face get mangled and shit they wise. Stay with them forever, bro, because it don't be about how they look. It be about what they bring to the table.
Uniq:But they already locked in. That's what I'm saying. I mean yeah.
Ant:True, true, true true. I'm with you, but I'm just saying you can learn to love somebody without that type of attraction.
Monte' Corleone:But I feel like learning to love somebody is dangerous, it's dangerous.
Monte' Corleone:It's dangerous, what you mean? It's dangerous because, how I look at things, it's just like school, right? I was going to school consistently, and then I went to college. I was right there, I was on point with everything that was going on, that shit. I forgot all about fundamentals and all of that shit, right? So I feel like as soon as you can learn how to love somebody, you can forget how to love their ass too, because I don't feel like that shit was real, you know, because you're learning it, I agree.
Ant:So I think that's the thing that we have to miss me personally. Right, that's what I believe about love. There are two separate veins of love. Right, that's what I believe about love.
Ant:There are two separate veins of love. There's being in love which is uncontrollable, and then there is love which is an action word, which is a choice, a daily choice to get up and love somebody, because that's sacrifice that comes with when you pissed off at them, going to talk to them anyway, that's when you want to pull away, but instead pulling closer. You know what I'm saying. Like that's where I feel like learning to love somebody is because if they am my worthiness, I say anybody who got everything, and that's the only thing they don't have is the physical attraction.
Ant:That's somebody that's worth learning to love, because they have everything you need them to have, with the exception of your perception, which changes. Your view changes when I'm growing up. You might like like I was attracted to white girls in elementary school. Not today, though.
Monte' Corleone:Yeah, but I disagree with that. I disagree with that because learning to love, all right. So you said there's two veins. The one that's uncontrollable is what you're explaining Falling in love no, in love is uncont. In love no, in love is uncontrollable, right? So that's what you're describing right now. All of these, all of those feelings of when you're in love with somebody, that's when you actually go and talk to them, when you're learning to love somebody, you learning that shit. You ain't. You ain't finna go talk to them, cause that ain't who you are. You, you learning that shit. You ain't finna go talk to them, because that ain't who you are. You see what I'm saying? You learning them and they learning you.
Uniq:I get what you're saying. You see what I'm saying. I heard you saying that's kind of how I feel, dude, same as they way. Yeah, you learning the person, but I get what you was trying to say, though.
Monte' Corleone:I get it but what you're explaining is somebody who's in love. Is somebody who's in love? Because if I'm learning to love somebody, I might be like man fuck that shit. I don't know what the hell you on. Like I don't know what you on. I'm not necessarily like, that's just me. I'm not necessarily going to go talk and do that because you're probably learning to love somebody young because when you fall, in love with somebody.
Ant:I feel like you're applying your own filters to that situation, which is why I left it broad, because I get what you're saying. So when I say learning to love somebody, I'm not saying the sentence learning to love. Stop, you know how to love. I said you're learning how to love that person. Like as far as like you applying all the things that you know about love to this individual person over here, because you're not, you're not attracted to their physicality. So now you gotta take everything you know about love and make sure you're applying it there.
Monte' Corleone:But no, if you're learning to love, that mean you're settling. If you're learning to love, that mean you chose that person and you like I'm not gonna let them low because let them go, because I like this about them. That might be their looks, that might be there, but that's what I'm saying.
Ant:You don't feel like that might be a bit vain? That's dangerous, I agree, but loving is dangerous in general. No, it ain't if you fall in if you fall in love if you fall in love with somebody and they fall, I'm like, I'm like, hey, if you fall in love.
Monte' Corleone:If you fall in love with somebody and they fall in love with you, and it's true, bro, that shit ain't, that shit is unbreakable if they say it was true, though it's a lot of people that fall in and out of love with people.
Ant:That's not true. That's how you learn who is true. That means you gotta get a marker.
Monte' Corleone:That means no, that means that one person was in love and one person is trying to learn how to love their ass. That's what that means, because when you fall in love and that person falls in love with you. That shit is unbreakable, bro I don't agree with that.
Ant:I think that people fall in and out of love because it's it's circumstantial, it's based on where you are in life. I fall in love with these things. I fall in love with your hair, your smile, your eyes. I fell in love with the way that you talk to me. I fell in love with these things that are that are going to change. These things are going to get eight. They're going to age. They're going to change. These things are going to age. They're going to go in and out. You're going to lose your motherfucking teeth. You might get some fake ones next. I got to learn to love different parts of you. That shit is going to evolve. So the in love part is shifty. That's why I said it's uncontrollable, that shit. One day you could wake up and be like damn. I don't feel the way I felt 10, 15 motherfucking years ago.
Monte' Corleone:That's learning. That's that learning part.
Ant:But that's what I'm okay, that's what I'm saying, though, but that was worth it to go through it. That was worth it for them.
Monte' Corleone:That's what I'm saying, but when you fall in love with somebody and they love you. This nigga. If y'all falling in love with each other, bro. Y'all going to grow with each other and learn to love each other. Y'all got this pact that y'all like Ain't no falling in and falling out of love. Bro, if you in love, that shit don't happen, bro. I'm a living proof of it.
Ant:I'm not saying that you fall in and out of love. I'm saying that people In general fall in and out of love, then that's not love, bro. I don't agree with that. Love comes in different flavors. That's what I'm saying to you, because your definition of love is one thing, based on what you've experienced, and what you're exposed to other people have different versions look, I just got a question because I'm not.
Uniq:I'm not judging what you just said, right, because you said you live in proof of that. So do you feel the situation that I had prior, the situation that I had prior? Yeah I didn't love that person. Is it where we're?
Monte' Corleone:at no. However, you were in a situation where you were in love, you married someone and you left. The person that you came back to was not the person that you left from. That's my interpretation, okay. So I feel like, yes, the person in your mind that you left from you were in love with this person. That was when you came back, wasn't listening, wasn't doing shit. You was like, oh no, this ain't the same person, so you didn't love that. And that was my interpretation, okay.
Uniq:I just wanted to hear that, yeah but look, look, regardless of everything y'all just said about the love and all that shit, right?
Monte' Corleone:What do you feel?
Uniq:I'm trying to go back to kind of what Ed said. Man, damn that If I'm not physically attracted to her, bro, man, let's get down to the meat and potatoes. Man, I can't physically be with her, y'all I can't. It's not gonna get silent. You hear me like I can't, I can't, I can't do my work.
Monte' Corleone:Yeah.
Uniq:You have to be so regardless of everything else you got.
Ant:So how much weight does that hold? But I think that's, that's what I was trying to explain.
Uniq:That's based on you, the reason why I you, because I'm only bringing this up, because that's where I'm at now so, but that's that's what I'm saying.
Ant:It's based on what your level of attraction to shit is. If mike is really attracted to people's physicality in general, that's what the fuck mike is attracted to. If he likes the way people sound, if he likes the way they talk, if he likes sense of humor, that's what he's attracted to. If he likes the way people sound, if he likes the way they talk, if he likes sense of humor, that's what he's attracted to. If he likes fat asses, doesn't matter what her face look like. Her ass is nice. That's certain people are attracted to very specific things. So if you don't have a level of attraction to her, that's different.
Monte' Corleone:You're not being attracted to her appearance specifically is a different conversation but see what I'm for me, I just changed the style of woman. It was the woman that was always shopping at BB and had to get her hair done and felt like she had to go out every weekend and be seen, versus my wife, who is okay with shopping at the thrift store you know what I'm saying. But she's that much beautiful. You know what I'm saying? She it's not. She don't have to glamorize herself.
Ant:She ain't gotta spend a thousand dollars exactly you know what I'm saying.
Monte' Corleone:And then, on top of that, the attitude was there, great attitude, and she got a head on her shoulders and she had a kid before, before. Before you know, I'm saying she had a son before, um, before I met her, but at the same time she wouldn't let me meet her son until it was time for me to meet him yes and I was like but that's what I'm saying.
Ant:She don't listen because on paper that's what I'm saying, bro, On paper she different.
Monte' Corleone:She don't listen to me. Hell, nah, but when you? Yeah, if I laid down two pieces of paper and I put what I thought about, because I was a Alicia Keys ass nigga, I was Alicia.
Monte' Corleone:Keys, light skin. Oh man, she bad, but I'm talking about every which way I turn. They got a badass attitude. I want this, I want that. Want a nigga to work extra hard to please you Like hell, no, we, not finna, do that. I'm trying to do this shit for us, not you. You know what I'm saying. So that's where I got it, man. Like I got to a point where, if you put that list that were back in the day I was looking for somebody to settle down with, no, not before Somebody to be with. It was a list of bullshit. And when I actually went to start looking for a wife, that list got small. That list got real small. You ain't necessarily had to like, actually, that motherfucking list over here. That motherfucker probably would have waved some motherfucking, some eyelashes. Girl got to have some nails, bro. On this list ain't none of that shit on that motherfucker.
Uniq:You do not have to even have a bit of makeup on that motherfucker at all. All right, look, I think what you. It's funny that you said learn to love somebody. You said learn to love somebody can be dangerous. Mm-hmm, I'm going to tell you where my head at, because I brought up the question because, like I said, this is something I'm experiencing or I've experienced. Y'all know one of the women I've brought up that I've dated. Y'all know that. You know what I'm saying. Y'all know one of the women I've brought up that I've dated. Y'all know that. You know what I'm saying. Y'all know what's going on, right, yeah, so y'all seen what this person has looked like in this method, in this method, this way, in this way. But what I'm saying now is I've shown y'all Like I, you know this is yeah, man, you know what I'm saying. I can do this blah, blah, blah, but Been around this person A little more. I'm not feeling that dog, yeah.
Uniq:I mean Despite, and like I, I brought up the other traits this person has Going for them. You know what I'm saying, but I'm just not feeling it though so I did that.
Ant:I don't know if you remember uh somebody I was dating before I met my wife, but somebody back in, uh, back home, you know I'm saying they're coming down here to visit and whatnot. It was the same type of situation. Like we was good uh okay, we talked about it. Uh, well it was, it was good when we was. We was like chopping it up when we was remote, then kind of business.
Monte' Corleone:This ain't what I thought it was.
Ant:I had to dead it off. After that I get where you at. I just don't want to paint the picture that everybody shouldn't necessarily move on Everybody ain't got it. You're going to find good people everywhere. Good, everybody ain't got it, everybody ain't got it. Like you're going to find good people everywhere, bro. Good people ain't just swimming out here. You know what I'm saying, but I just so.
Monte' Corleone:I guess my message would be to not settle. You see what I'm saying.
Ant:It's got to be worth it. That's why I said it's got to be worth it to get to know them, because they have all of these other traits. Physicality, to me, is not the same thing.
Monte' Corleone:So think about my situation right, like I told y'all, All right, give me your advice, Dr Fields. No, but I'm saying all right, cool. So you said it's got to be worth it to settle.
Ant:I didn't say it's got to be worth it to settle. I said it's got to be worth it for you to look past any like. If you're not attracted to them physically, is it not worth it to wait? It's worth it for you to reassess what is causing you to be attracted to people in the first place, because if you're somebody who says you want to be with somebody long term and the thing that's holding you back is the physicality, I think that you should reassess what's going on in your head and what's going on with your brain. So that's what I'm saying. I'm not saying if you see somebody who you know from jump is dog shit ugly.
Monte' Corleone:So, if you like, no, I'm just because they are nice person. No, I don't agree with that. No, this is. This is not about multiple traits this ain't about multiple traits it's about attraction but that's what I'm saying.
Ant:If it's about attraction, then it's a different conversation so, but so I guess this is what I'm breaking it down to, right, and I was comparing it more to my situation when you are talking to somebody, uh, on social media or via the phone or any situation where you're not around them, you don't smell them, you're not looking at their body and their facial reactions. Yeah, exactly so you thought you I'm gonna say fall in love, right, but you start to like other shit, you start to get attracted to other things the way that, that they answer questions, the way that they think right, shit like that they sense of humor. So if you are attracted to that person in that realm and you love everything about them in that realm and the only thing that's holding you back is them, they kind of ugly, right, like I think that that's worth exploring. Exploring because is it you and your motherfucking standards that's too high, or are you like no, I'll legitimate it, it wouldn't work.
Monte' Corleone:You know what I'm saying? That's two different things. We in the same situation, because I did the same thing. I was looking at a picture. I didn't see her, bro. I was literally listening to her and everything that she was telling me I was attracted to. Yes, the picture was beautiful. Yes, cool, you know what I'm saying? That just made it that much better when I actually met her, you know. So I'm good with that. But my thing is, I didn't learn to love her. I don't. I don't feel like I learned to love her.
Ant:I feel like I feel like we learned to get to know each other and we fell in love. That's how I feel. I mean and I'm not going to ever invalidate your feelings right, my stuff is coming from because I went to school for psychology, even if it was only for a semester and no, but for real, when we talk about this information, I'm going off of, like I'm going off doctors and shit nah, for real, I'm going off doctors and shit.
Ant:I'm talking about like what people really feel like, about falling in and out of love, what the course of love is like like when you talk about like loving somebody is a choice and I'm specifically talking about long term relationships or marriage right, when you talk about committing your life. That's why I said it depends on what you're going for. If you're just fucking around, you just need a somebody to kick you with you and you just want some acuity on your arm. You're gonna. You're gonna have a different set of standards than if you're talking about somebody who's gonna help you take care of your kids, somebody who's gonna be a wife and a helpmate for you later on, a good business part of somebody you can trust with your bridge see, that's a different situation you know what I'm saying, but that's what I'm saying like I feel like it depend on which.
Ant:Because we grown, bro, all of us over 30, so like we, we looking for different shit in a relationship. But if it's a 22 year old listening to this, no hell, no nigga. If she ugly, go get you a cutie like you know what I'm saying go, do, go, do what you need to do. But as a grown-ass person, if you got certain shit that you need met and you turn on some, yeah, they do everything for me, but I don't like the back of their earlobes, like get your shit together like you know what I'm saying like that.
Ant:That don't make sense to me yeah, but it can go.
Monte' Corleone:It can go every which way, though surgery, get some health insurance. God damn it it can go every which way, because how I? Was thinking how I was thinking is the person who is also ugly. They can't find nobody, but just going to settle for somebody that's going to be fucking them over or something like that? No, and I think that's learning to love.
Ant:It's comparative, yeah, okay. So check this out, bro, and I want to know what your wife's perspective is, because there were things about you that had to change to be able to put you in a position for you to be able to be successful. What if, for her, she had to learn to love those parts so that she could eventually see the person that you are now? What if that was her vocalization?
Monte' Corleone:you know what I'm saying? I'm just asking. I can tell you exactly what happened yeah, bro, we went to a therapist, mm-hmm. We sat down with the therapist and the therapist kind of told her, like that's a you problem. Mm-hmm, that's what changed everything, bruh, because like you can't change me, you fell in love with me. Why are you trying to change certain things about me?
Ant:You know I love this, but you're saying she had to learn.
Monte' Corleone:No, but that's the thing she had to learn to love those things, but she didn't.
Ant:What's the process? She had to learn. She didn't learn to love with it.
Monte' Corleone:She ain't learn to love it. She dealt with it. She just was like fuck it Because I love him. I'm not finna deal with that. I ain't finna even trip off of that.
Uniq:Cause, that's what the third.
Monte' Corleone:Okay, yeah, damn, I ain't even really trip off that that's my husband.
Uniq:I love him, you know. But look, you're saying you need to learn to love. But, monte, you're saying you need to do it in spite of.
Ant:I think that both things are true. I just also think that learning is a part of it.
Uniq:It's different. You have to learn that though you know what I'm saying. My sister had to love him. In spite of deal with it, you're saying no, you need to adapt and learn that person and become a couple.
Ant:That's how we don't become our grandparents. I feel like our grandparents tolerated shit and then got bitter over shit and then stressed, and then that's where it turned into the relationships that we saw, where grandpa really had like four fucking families because he was moving around and doing shit and grandma just tolerated the shit. What I'm saying is we have to learn to convert holistically, like I, this is what the fuck life is. I need to learn to understand this is what this is, and I and I have to be okay with what this is. So and like we're getting real deep.
Ant:But with this was talking about somebody's face or you know, being attracted to them, right? So I'm talking about that in general. It's different than somebody whooping your ass, right. It's different than somebody verbally or emotionally abusing you and shit like that. Like I ain't talking about all of those things. I'm talking about, damn, without makeup. They really ain't doing it for me. Like, yeah, I would just say search yourself, because what are you really looking for? Because if you not, if your dick is really the primary driver, then let that be the driver and and don't even worry about being getting a life partner right now. Yeah, you know what I'm saying like that I wouldn't worry about that, but if all the other things are what's keeping you there, then do that yeah, but that's going to have to be a part two thing, because most people just don't know their love language.
Ant:Hey, and you know what? And speaking of that, that's something that I feel like we should definitely dive into, but on the next episode of Trinches to Trophies, so appreciate y'all listening with us. You know what I'm saying. This has been the first episode, first official episode of Trenches to Trophies. I am your host, a mad artist. I let these people know where y'all can find y'all man. So on Instagram you can find me at A underscore mad, underscore artist.
Monte' Corleone:I am the real Mate Corleone on Instagram and I am Mate Corleone.
Uniq:Man, you follow me on my barber page Unique UNIQ dot artistry underscore. Hey man, follow the Trenches and Trophies podcast Instagram too, yeah yeah. Trenches, the number two trophies underscore podcast.
Monte' Corleone:And I just want to let y'all know. You know we do have things coming up. You know we got this thing called the Homie Fund that we're going to bust out for y'all eventually, and what the Homie Fund is is something that we put money into and hopefully you would put money into as well so we can help those less fortunate than us. You know Christmas is coming up, but we're going to miss this Christmas. So hopefully, 2025, next Christmas, we able to give somebody some nice Christmas gifts and stuff like that, pay for people, lunches throughout the next year and all of that. So look forward to that too. That's it. That's all All right.
Ant:Catch us next time on Trenches to Trophies. Drank both of these. Thank you you.
